None of the language is not so much the names of relatives, both in Russian.About banal father-in-law, brother-in-law and even to say no, everyone knows who he is.But you know, for example, that the husbands of two sisters had each other in-laws, wife and two brothers - yatrovkami?Interestingly, in the Russian language there is a very apt and stinging proverbs and sayings, reflecting the difficult relations within the family.For example: "urban Kuma arrogant", "zhurliva that mother in law", "pockets toschi at Tiffany's."
But today we will focus on one relative - a sister of her husband or in-law.Do you know how long ago spoke about her husband's sister?In-law - or zlovka-law - spendthrift!And they are saying: "zolovushkiny speech repem stand."What is the relative deserve such treatment?
Sister husband and wife almost always add an uneasy relationship.This is the same well-known conflict in the relationship, "mother-in-law - in-law" or "in-law - the daughter."At the same time suffering party usually consider themselves wives: they are convinced that in-law allow themselves to interfere in the private lives of the spouses, in their daily life, in the sphere of education of children and keeping the family budget.In doing so, sister in law often wonder: they sincerely believe that they have the full right to it.That is why the wife usually reduce interaction with in-law to a minimum, or at least try to do it.And even need to congratulate the sister of her husband once or twice a year turns into a real problem, as there are sharp conflicts.
reason for this situation - lack of understanding of the banal side, reluctance to accept each other's position.But the aggrieved party is usually the husband.Let's try to understand what underlies this misunderstanding.
Sister husband can treat his brother in many ways.Firstly, it can associate itself with the mother (the older sister or just more mature as a person).In this case, it will refer to his brother affectionately indulgent and allow ourselves to interfere in his life.The extent of this intervention will depend on its cycles and how she is allowed to do so.Also, my husband's sister can project the image of a father to his brother, trying to him the role of protector.Therefore, it will claim their right to participate in his own life, with no regard for his family situation changed.Often this situation is associated with his wife's utter selfishness, but sometimes in-law simply did not have time to understand all the changes.Another problem with this situation is that the sister of the husband continues to use his things, and money does not reckoning with his brother's wife.Remember the saying - "sister-in-spendthrift."Here on this side of the question and the question is a sister of the husband still he thinks he has the right to take money (his apartment, car, cottage, and so on. N.) Like their own things.Its position just to understand: she used to do it, and not going to change their habits for the sake of some "outside" women.
most neutral option - a friendship between sister and brother.But in this case there are conflicts, often because of a trivial jealousy.And as a sister may be jealous of her husband to the new woman in the life of his brother, and the wife of her husband's relatives in general and in particular in-law.
Is there a way out of this situation?I would like to say that there is, but it's not quite true.In order to avoid such a development, it is necessary to both sides abstracted from emotions, which is practically impossible.Still, you should at least try to make a step towards each other, to talk, to try to understand, to define the most critical moments.This must be done, otherwise there will be one of two things: either a woman loses her husband or another - his brother.
