All parents have repeatedly clashed with his child tantrums.Sometimes children "concert" so stormy and prolonged as to maintain composure quite difficult ... How to calm the child in hysterics?And is it possible at all?The article you are reading now is based on a number of aspects of the beautiful psychologist and doctor of medicine Ray Levy, who explains quite affordable to parents how to comfort children who get hysterical.
Our children have not yet developed enough to keep the emotions and desires under control.Alas, hysterical - the attribute of childhood.And she says simply, your child did not get what they want.Children under two years of age, language difficulties, hysterical - a way to communicate about the needs at a given moment ("Give a toy", "thirsty", "bedtime", "change the diaper").Older children cry express their opposition.They are already well aware of what they want, and are able to express desires into words.What they are going in the case of your refusal?That's right - begin to scream and cry.What you need to calm the child?
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Learn to ignore their child.Man during a tantrum is not in itself.Emotions suppressed brain region responsible for an adequate assessment and decision-making.You do not improve the situation at this moment.All your good intentions will cause a new surge of negative emotions.Let the baby release the anger, like steam.You should not disturb him.Vykrichavshis, your child will resume control your thoughts, and you will be able to talk without shouting and pressure.
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Distract the child.The kid can always offer something different - let your handbag are toys, delicious trivia book.Something is definitely interested in the child.Know how to reassure children need, but it is better to "catch" the beginning of hysteria - at this point your child's still "works" hold attention.The main thing - to communicate with the child in a really upbeat tone.By the way, can and work situation: dog, cat, passing cars, bright flower.The main thing - time to switch attention.
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We need to understand what is really so annoying child.Especially it concerns children who are under the age of two.Vocabulary them is still quite small, communication is limited, but there are thoughts, desires and needs grow.If the child is misunderstood, he becomes agitated, releasing resentment.It can help sign language.Already the mere indication of a finger on the desired object works wonders.
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Hug baby."Perhaps at this moment you will have no arms, but, believe me, it really helps to soothe your baby!" And Levi rights.Only it is not a tender embrace, and sturdy, big.Do this in silence, otherwise you will have to re-enter the characters senseless war.
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Offer your child a snack or relax.Levy, speaking about how to calm the children, drew attention to two major trigger tantrums - hunger or fatigue.At this time, your child is already on the brink, and the slightest push is a new emotional tantrum.You're also more irritable when hungry or slept poorly.Do not forget that the crumbs are difficult to control emotions.
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Offer encouragement.The factor that caused irritation (standing in the church, sitting in the bus, waiting in line) can be suppressed by the promise of reward for good behavior.Think of it as a kind of bribe.Such bribery is admissible, but conditions should dictate to you.If the child will relax, remind him of the recently concluded "contract".
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Talk quietly.Your exasperated tone will only exacerbate became hysterical.
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Put imperturbable smile of the Mona Lisa.Children are smart and we feel intuitively.If you suddenly will strain or surrender, allowing your child to gain the upper hand, so as not to attract the attention of others to act out scenes, consider that lose: your child quickly realized what worked and why.Rest assured that the baby will definitely make an effective method in service.By the way, the survey showed that people do not react to the child's tantrum, and the reaction of the parents.So, staying calm outwardly, you call the condemnation of society, even if your child is screaming in the street.
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Take away the child.Changing the environment often changes and behavior.
As you can see, the answer to the question of how to calm the children, is quite simple: try to see the world through the eyes of the crumbs, feel and understand his desires and needs.Take our advice, not as a guide to action, but as a theme for reflection.
