every modern man certainly faced with the concept of sadomasochism and probably shudder at the mention of unconventional sexual behavior.BDSM culture is considered important centers of violence, filth and lust, but is it true?What is really the public knows about the subculture?
What is BDSM?
Alternative models of sexual behavior is often misunderstood, particularly under the influence of religious dogmas and imposed by someone unknown and when values.Misunderstanding and rejection by society and culture has touched BDSM.Explanation of abbreviations is as follows: Bondage, Discipline, Sadism Masochism, which translates as "band, discipline, sadism, masochism."In fact it is not the only option decryption - depending on the understanding of the concept of subculture, as well as personal interests and preferences, the name of the followers of BDSM interpret differently.Explanation of the word "bondage" may also sound in two ways: the letters L and C can also refer to the concept of "dominant" and "submissive" attitude which constitute the "backbone" of BDSM culture.
concept of BDSM relationships
Hearing the acronym BDSM, most people draw in the imagination of a kind of vulgar lady in latex with whip, but not everyone knows that this model of relations requires not just mindless violence against a partner and profound,in most cases happy relationship.Yes, many of the followers of BDSM marry and live a normal family, in some cases even refusing BDSM-relationship model in favor of a traditional one.
Actually motive sadism and masochism is not the main concept of BDSM.Explanation indicates the S & amp; M as the only one of the manifestations and features splash sexual energy.Much deeper relationship can be seen in the model of "dominant-submissive".Again, these relationships are not built on the constant humiliation "saba", their aim is not self-assertion at the expense of the dominant power over the partner.Submissive voluntarily transfers all rights to his life "home", thus showing great respect, love and trust in the partner.
Deciphering abbreviations BDSM gives only a superficial understanding of what underlies the subculture, however, if you look at the model of relations between "home" and "subwoofer", can be traced quite romantic trends.The task is not to put pressure on the dominant "saba", but to help him to realize in life, preserving as much as possible from the misery and treats it like a normal loving partner.Submissive should also implicitly trust and obey "upper", realizing that he was willing only the good.These two know exactly what belonged to each other.Dominant feels responsible for the "bottom", and the latter, in turn, tries to make the life of the "upper" as best as possible and pleasant.If dominant - man, think, not the relationship you wish to model every woman?It is a relationship built on complete trust and openness, where both partners feel responsible for one another.The man - the owner, the defender and the assistant - is not that every woman is looking for?The girl who inspires, supports and listens - does not need it to every man?
course, there are some really informal parts in BDSM.The meaning includes the concept of sadism and masochism, and these methods are often used as a punishment for a misdemeanor "saba" or just as a fun sex.But here, knowing the measure and setting clear rules, you can see the romance, because every girl wants to belong completely to the man that is natural in BDSM and quite rare in the traditional ways, where there is distrust, false and destructive attitudes of the characters struggle.
Basic principles of BDSM
Most people know if deciphering acronyms BDSM, it is very vague, because society believes that the followers of this subculture mentally ill and in need of medical intervention shrinks.Unfortunately, this view is prevalent all over the world because of the low level of erudition of people and distorted presentation of information from the media.
There are three basic principles, referred to the acronym SSC, followed by all the "adepts" BDSM.Deciphering it is simple: safety, sanity, voluntary.As you can see, BDSM session if they are used in a BDSM relationship, is very reasonable and safe for both partners.Let us consider each principle in more detail.
security principle
This is the basic principle that should guide Tops (dominant) in BDSM.Deciphering it is: every senior should know the basics of anatomy, medicine, physiology, physics and chemistry to flegallyatsiya and other sadomasochistic practices were absolutely safe for the "bottom".As you can see, to be "in the subject line," needs a huge store of knowledge and skills, so as not to hurt your partner.
principle sanity
also a very important concept in BDSM, the value of which, however, is difficult to determine.Sanity principle says that the practice should be only those techniques in which both partners are well versed, otherwise it can lead to tragic consequences.Whatever feelings are not overwhelmed stamp, this principle must always be a priority.
Volunteerism
This principle works mainly with the help of stop words."Lower" voluntarily conveys the right to stamp himself together, but that does not mean that the "top" can do what he wants.All methods are good as long as give pleasure to both partners, otherwise BDSM session can turn into a banal domestic violence.Stop-word helps to "lower" to make clear its "master" that limit has been reached and it is time to stop.
stop-word and its meaning in BDSM
As already mentioned, the stop word is a guarantee that the "bottom" will not be subjected to involuntary violence.There are several opinions about the stop words in the BDSM: deciphering it for some means a signal that should stop, however, this approach is wrong with respect to the "bottom".
the only correct interpretation of stop words is: he heard it, "top" must immediately cease all acts of CM and to completely release the "lower".If you draw a colorful analogy, this word is an analogue of the emergency brake on the train, not the polite requests to stop, because even if the "upper" believes that stopping early, his partner may be quite a different opinion, and it should be taken into account.
