Each of us in life there were unmet zhelaniya.Ochen painful conditions such when it comes to love relationships and not only.Unmet desires often lead people to look for problems in your external data, character traits, etc.This can help them to see some flaws, but on the other hand, because of inept introspection unsatisfied desires may lead to a deep sense of inferiority.
unpleasant feeling of dissatisfaction reinforces desires such features as reverie: "I want to be the mistress of the sea and command a goldfish."Dreaminess and separation from reality increases in general any unpleasant emotions.Excessive and inappropriate imagination corrupts thinking.And the harm of reverie is that inconsistency of reality to our dreams creates despondency, sadness.If a person begins to overly anticipate the forthcoming pleasant experience, it weakens the pleasure he got from the real event (after the film, scanned a second time is not as interesting as the first).
also enhances the feeling that form unmet desires, desires unconsciousness.Sometimes a person experiences an inexplicable sadness, but this is often cited dissatisfaction with the desire that we have not realized.If realized, vaguely - it's us and leads to discouragement.The best way to improve mood in this case - to realize your desires.
We must ask ourselves, and try to give yourself a logical, reasoned response.If you experience pain, and you feel that this may be because of some unsatisfied desires, ask yourself these questions.What needs I want (or wanted / want) to meet in the course of this action (of work, events, dialogue)?These needs can be a need for prestige (acceptance, approval), communicating relevant knowledge.What pleasure I anticipate from the implementation of this action (attention, care, assistance, approval, compassion)?Or from any discomfort I want to get rid of?For example, I envy the successful employee.I need to talk about this, but not with anyone.In this case, I would hate not only envy but also from unsatisfied desire to gloat, but if I realize what I need is not satisfied, and specifically what action or words I expected from a companion, I will become easier.It is necessary to introduce the specific behavior of other people, which you expect from them, and that would satisfy your desire.What is for you the value of these actions, what are their consequences?What else can be options, that would suit your needs?Why do you think it is that a person or the circumstances best to meet the desires?If you raspishesh
answers to these questions in writing, it will be even better than the mental thinking.The details will be painted in response to each question, the better.This will help alleviate the condition in which you plunged unmet desires.And do not forget that clarity of thought, when everything "sort through", and the imagination is under control - the best protection against any melancholy.Good luck!
