son is going to marry, and introduces his bride to his parents.Will they be glad she is young will be in the family, whether there with her warm and cordial relations, as in this family?Why do some families there is an irreconcilable struggle between a young wife and mother of his son?Try to understand.
What does it mean?
For a start it is worth noting that the daughter in law - it is the son's wife.But only in relation to her husband's father.But for the mother-in-law she is.Why is there such a mess?And why it is believed that the "in-law" - this is almost a swear word?
There are two opinions.First, that the word "daughter in law" - this is the exact analogue of the concept of "the daughter."The second opinion that a woman who for some time is married and has had time to have a baby.
incorrect, idea of the meaning of the word is connected with its dissonant, and the similarity in sound to the word "intercourse".It should be noted that when the family status "in-law" came into common parlance, this concept did not exist.
For example, in the dictionary Dal concept of "demolish" is one of its values - "tolerate."It is most suitable to the new relative status, as its role was more sensitive than as compared with other members of the family.
Another version
There is another version that the daughter in law - is the one that is "to give birth."That is, the woman did not come just from another village and family, and already has some experience and chat with the new name.She is waiting for a new family member, and therefore will procreation.In support of this version is very suitable national saying: "generous generous in-law."
uncompromising struggle?
If there is a conflict between the son-in-law and wife, it is only because of the women's jealousy and stupidity.My mother does not want to put up with the second role in the life of his grown-up child and pesters young girl: not ready, says that the nature of the bad, and the like sayings.
woman who lives with her mother in law in the same house, should develop a specific strategy to approach the mother of her husband.It is obvious that the new relation is not an enemy to her, and relatives and friends of people for her son.That in-law of his birth, grow up and instilled in him the qualities of which are loved and appreciated his young woman.So what did the mother of her husband not to love?We must try to find a contact with her, and mutual insults and insults are unacceptable.It will only lead to the death of a young family.
how to behave
Wisdom - is knowledge.While still a bride, a girl advisable to inquire about the preferences of their new family, to try to find out the birthdays, important dates, interests and hobbies.Then she will love the mother of the groom, that later would call it a "good daughter in law" and will treat her like a daughter.However, the rule to be nice to her mother in law, to respect it and honor, do not forget after marriage.
what steps the girl who is going to join a new family?You can start small: happy birthday, said: "you look good", "Can I have your recipe for a wonderful lettuce?" And the heart of the icy thaw her husband's mother.Not far off gifts, heartfelt congratulations daughter in law, compliments.The young husband would be happy if the house will be peace and harmony.What else you need to gentle and loving wife?
