it necessary to maintain confidence in the kids marvel at the magical appearance of Santa Claus?Or honest tell it like it is?
Time magic
There are adults who believe that children should be brought up without any naive illusions, not to hide them, "the truth of life."They even do not read fairy tales for children.And, of course, do not try to convince the kid in the existence of Santa Claus - on the contrary, immediately dispel the myth of the New Year's magic.Naturally, parents do so in good faith, so that the child does not deceive vain.However, without themselves realizing it, adults thus cause great damage to the child's psyche.
fact that from infancy until the child is 7 years old, "mythological phase" when he needed the air fairy tale and faith in miracles.This is necessary for normal psycho-emotional development, for creativity, for the development of imagination.Therefore, to deprive a child of the world of dreams in this age, in any case impossible.Over time, the baby will be less attention paid to invent the world, to learn to clearly distinguish myth from reality, but it is small, it has to dream and to believe the tales.
golden mean
What about those parents who do not want to deceive the child, but not going ahead of time to destroy the charm of a fairy tale?Here is look at the history and remember who is Santa Claus, where he came from, and that symbolizes.Initially, Frost - the evil spirit of winter, which is gradually transformed into a kind but strict old man, having incorporated many of the features of the image of St. Nicholas - a real man who lived many centuries ago.When the crumb is quite small, it is possible to give him gifts on behalf of Santa Claus, is older, you can explain that Santa Claus - an image of St. Nicholas, who helped the poor and gave gifts to children.
St. Nicholas died, but there was a tradition to give each other presents on Christmas and New Year, saying that "it brought Santa Claus."Celebrating New Year's Eve with Santa Claus, we honor the old Russian tradition.This explanation is most likely the child will understand and will not bring disappointment.
plain truth!
However, I'm sure many have encountered a situation where the parents have not yet gently pripodnesti child the truth about New Year's grandfather, and some of the older children "opened the eyes of the kid."If a small child, to avoid tears in such cases will not be possible.It would be better if my mother would say something like: "Santa Claus exists for those who believe in it.And for those who do not believe in it, it does not bring gifts. "
perfect gift
Of course, the best gift for the baby would be the fulfillment of his dream come true, so you should find out in advance at the kid what he wants for the New Year.You can with him to write a letter to Santa Claus.But sometimes, he heard children's wish that parents fall into confusion as the child asks another car or a doll, which he and so the whole room was clogged.Try to gently direct the desires of a baby in the right direction.So, if my daughter again asks you to buy a doll (although the room has three sitting Masha and Dasha four), tell her about what a wonderful children's kitchen you saw in the store, or a sewing kit, with which you can tinkering wonderful outfits.Most likely, the child is interested in and you will switch to the advertised item.But if it does not, do not be angry, and to present what the kid put forth.Put yourself in the place of the child.Remember, almost all women, there are times when shopping for dress shoes or someone from the family exclaims, "Where are you!You already have exactly the same! ".
Eats, pardon!
Sometimes parents mischievous and naughty children can be heard: "Do not get a gift for the New Year!Enough!It behaves just ugly, but we also need to give small presents ?! ".It seems that everything is correct: behaved perfectly - hold the coveted toy;I behaved badly - a gift not to be seen.However, children's deprivation of New Year's gift - not just punishment, but a terrible humiliation and grief.New Year's Eve - the day is waiting for 12 months, waiting with impatience, hope, faith in miracles.New Year's gift - it's not just an ordinary "Present" is a dream come true.New Year celebrations and gifts are often remembered for a lifetime, and imagine the pain the child will experience hearing in New Year's Eve that he was deprived of the gift of children's pranks.Even if the kid really behaved disgracefully, do not punish him so.It is better to try to holiday closer to mend relations with a child, help them deal with their internal problems and bad behavior.New Year - a special day, a warm, family.Memories of our children will carry him through life.So let this bright day will be wonderful for them and loved memories that they will cherish in my heart.
important
If the child does not rejoice even a welcome gift, this may indicate that it lacks the attention of adults.He tries to attract the whims and deliberately.It can be seen, it's not a gift, and in family relationships.
Personal opinion
Anfisa Chekhov
- in young children need to maintain faith in Santa Claus.Children need to believe in magic, because when they become adults, it helps them to look at life as a miracle.
Christine Sandalova
Articles Source: aif.ru
