About 8 professions deforming personality.And how to deal with it ...
Lawyer Lawyers seen from afar.A neat haircut, strict business suit and carrying case - an image, a la Keanu Reeves in "The Devil's Advocate."In addition to such official appearance, most custody Themis distinguishes emphatically restrained behavior.These people are very clearly and consistently answer questions and love pour professional terms."Formalism lawyers are not so harmless - explains Nadezhda Kuzmina, counselor Center" Navigator ".- Awareness of jurists may exceed the scope of the permissible, and eventually they just turn into nerds. "
Typically, in this profession are corrosive and meticulous people.Because these qualities are cultivated year after year, for many lawyers excessive suspiciousness becomes a character trait.Even in personal relationships, they tend to look for a trick.
If you decide to confront the professional deformation, do not give yourself the installation of the "I'll never be so callous boring as Ivan Ivanovich."In this case, you are too much concentrate on the struggle with himself that will lead to excessive self-control."Develop a sense of humor.The ability to laugh at themselves allows to stay sane and not become a boring biscuit "- advises Hope Kuzmin.
Accountant
Some experts joke: Accountant - a diagnosis."It seems to me to change profession, accountants have to spend much more effort than an employee of any other profession," - smiling CEO ProTraining Denis Chistyakov.Many people are so get used to the image of a business that transferred meticulousness and love to the minutes of privacy."Accountants do everything right, - says Denis Chistyakov.- All extreme frightens them and alarming.They go to school at five, graduated with the highest honors.They would prefer to just get a job, which will remain until retirement. "Pedantry and accountants are often transferred to the family.Spouse can not worry: planning the family budget will be in good hands, and the apartment is kept clean and tidy.
Are you afraid to become a nerd?Tear off the market and get closer to the people, otherwise the risk to be second Akaki Bashmachkin whose world consisted of letters and commas.Around there are many interesting things.Have fun, try the unusual sports.There may come to the aid of relatives and friends of the formalist, who in fact prove that the uncertainty and risk has its advantages.
Military
These people from a young age are getting used to the atmosphere of strict discipline.As a rule, the military "build" home, and suppress dissent by force bearing.Military retired - the classic image of the domestic tyrant and dictator.
According to psychologists, the military becoming the kind of professional deformation of the person, which can not be overcome.The officer - not a profession but a way of life.There will not save even a sense of humor, which I must say, the military is either absent or is too specific.
At the same time the military is perfectly adapted to life in the civilian world."The great advantage of the military in that they make faithful husbands and protectors.Throw a family does not allow a code of honor.Besides a strong family is a part of the image for the officer, "- says Nadezhda Kuzmina.So it makes no sense to dwell on the negatives - better cultivate the positive qualities of the members of your profession.
doctor
Job doctor assumes a huge responsibility, and service in extreme conditions leaves its mark.Well-known medical cynicism becomes a kind of psychological protection from fear and the daily suffering of the patients.Black humor, which a doctor can afford in a society counterparts, automatically transferred to friends and loved ones, and this may hurt the feelings of others.Sometimes doctors are so much accustomed to hide the emotions that they prefer not to talk about their work and experiences.The tragic events taking place in real life, doctors perceive spartan and with a certain degree of indifference.However, what seems to be indifference, in fact, own erected a psychological wall.
Psychologists advise to share their internal problems with loved ones, and do not forget the compassion that is so waiting relatives.Leave the troubles at work and outside of health facilities do everything to avoid additional stress: walk walk, read books and watch movies, non-violent.
Journalist
both in work and in life, journalists are quite superficial.This is understandable: the profession does not involve a detailed study of the material, so the interests of the journalist directed outwards and not deep.
Another disadvantage of journalists - excessive curiosity."In everyday life, they try to attract attention - says Nadezhda Kuzmina.- Such a desire is because in professional activity, people are forced to stay in the shade to maintain objectivity and not to detract from the newsmaker.I would advise journalists suffering talkative as ever to record their conversations on tape and listen carefully.You will be easier to assess their speaking skills and understand, not too active you pull the blanket over himself. "Yet to win such a disadvantage as talkative, very difficult.But to live with him is quite possible.But only if you choose the right circle.Choose people who like to listen more than talk, and the grass on the health of journalistic stories in the company of grateful introverts.
psychologist
«In two of three cases, people go to study to be a psychologist to try to understand themselves, - says Denis Chistyakov.- They are worried and they want to learn how to cope with the problems. "At the same time, oddly enough, the end of life and psychologists can not do away with their "cockroaches".In some cases, they do not see the context and begin to analyze and delve into the problems of others.They organize interlocutor interrogation and, worst of all, try to impose his advice."In business, it is not always necessary, - says Denis Chistyakov.- Here is an example.Sales managers often hold special trainings on NLP, where they are taught how to influence people.But in the end all negotiations break down, because instead of listening to the interlocutor, people learn how to anyone who looked like someone who sat down and made a movement. "
second variant strain is associated with a mastery of the manipulator.These people know how to communicate with people and understands their weaknesses.With others, the psychologist is easy to achieve the desired, and the rest did not understand how he managed to do it.
Try to clearly separate the professional and private life.You should be able to free and disengage from the profession.Do not think of other people as the material for the study.Say to yourself, "stop", as soon as notice of an unhealthy interest to the other party.Manipulation - and at an unacceptable thing in personal relationships, leave this toy just for business situations.Moreover, focusing on the search for subtexts, and trying to get into the unconscious, you are depriving yourself of the true pleasure of simple human communication.
Sales
salespeople profession teaches cunning and resourcefulness.Ability to foist a product that is not sold - is an art, and often very poor quality of the goods makes sly and cunning.
Another drawback of sales managers - talkativeness."At work, they have to talk a lot, and it becomes a habit.Also, they tend to excessive virtuosity, - says Nadezhda Kuzmina.- If you have notice of an excessive talkativeness and a certain affectedness, slow down.Try at least in leisure disengage from thinking about work. "
sales managers tend to be excessively picky consumer.Making even a small purchase, the manager can not escape the thought that he was trying to cheat."From the unjustified suspicion can be removed.As you are used to handle a lot of information, try to prepare for the purchase beforehand.For example, you can get the maximum amount of information about a product or service on the Internet "- suggests Nadezhda Kuzmina.
Master Teacher in ordinary life do his favorite thing - they teach.As a rule, high self-esteem of teachers, independent of their status."Teachers heavily rebuilt, - says Denis Chistyakov.- The majority of them - do not want to generalize - once learned some list of topics and now teach a jagged course without deviating from it a single step. "They are accustomed to impose their point of view and we do not know how to obey another man, hence the authoritarian behavior and authoritativeness.They worked around trying to prove its leadership and to gain recognition.
«Learn to obey - advises Denis Chistyakov.- If you have changed the scope of activities, the need to understand the laws in the hierarchy of the company.Try to change your role, tell yourself: "I am currently a student and studying new business."In the family, we must be wiser.It is one thing - to improve student in the classroom, the other - make claims spouse.In this case there is the substitution of the role of the adult role of the child, but your spouse is not a child, and it should be good to understand. "
Try to take the place of his interlocutor, or deliberately try on the role of a slave.Create a situation - on holiday, on a course of study something new, on sightseeing tours where you would be a slave and a priori is in the "bottom."Perhaps experienced the charm of orders and instructions on yourself, you will begin to be careful to command others.Continuous self-development and tolerance - Psychologists give this advice.
Alexander Ilyin
Articles Source: trud.ru
