world is very cruel, and children - is no exception.Quite the contrary ... What to do if your child is being teased and bullied out?
children of different age-aggressors act differently.And if the conflicts in the kindergarten and the primary grades can neutralize the power of his authority, from the teenage problems harder to handle.
Kids
Alas, the charming little angels - kids 3-8 years - are very aggressive.Your child in kindergarten, elementary school or at the site near the house can really hurt.The normal reaction of a baby in such a situation - screaming and crying.First of all, the horror of the actions themselves do not cause the other children, and a lack of understanding - why do they do so?Teach your child to react to teasing.But before - be sure to talk with their parents "the offender".Rather, they perceive the information appropriately, and try to explain to your child the rules of behavior in society.Even if during a conversation adults actively trying to justify their child or indignantly refute your accusations - it does not matter.With high probability, the conversation with the child-ZLYKA did take place.
And you, meanwhile, carry out an educational program with your baby:
- Explain to the child that the aggressive behavior of their peers does not mean that they do not like him and certainly no evidence that it is any not so bad,bad.Give son or daughter to understand that evil people are angry for no apparent reason, and their behavior - a consequence of their own bad temper, envy;
- Teach your child to rebuff offenders.But only a neutral, not offending.Ideal translate all bad words to uttering.That's how in our childhood, remember: "Speaking about me, and like you," and so on;
- explain the tears, the cry and the desire to climb into the fray - the wrong response to the teasing.After all, the one who teases, only this and waiting!Let the child know that the best way - the opposite reaction.It offends neighbor in kindergarten chair, a bully from a nearby 1 "B" class or partner play in the sandbox?Get away from him, not reacting to provocation.And the aggressor quickly calm down.
Teens
Teenage aggression - something far more terrible.If you - happy parents of a teenager, your main task - to closely monitor their child.To notice changes in the behavior of a son or daughter, you will be able to prevent trouble, and even tragedy!Try to talk with your child, gently pulling it out of school news, and Listen for tone of a teenager.Something alarming?Asks active!Obviously scared, and the child is silent, as a partisan?Contact with parents or friends of the class teacher.If there is nothing wrong - the usual misunderstandings in the classroom or less unhappy love - do not advertise their activity, so as not to injure the teenager even more.Proceed secretly.
prestige among adolescents is of great importance.React to taunts more "cool" peer adequate - hard.That is why all the "charms" of post-pubertal child should be prepared in advance.
confident person tease and hurt hard.A child's self-esteem depends on the atmosphere in the family and its role in it.So be prepared for the fact that the teenager, who, as he can remember, abused, forced to not appreciate the parents, will be the object of ridicule and mockery peers.And give full he can not fight back.Love your children, and do not hurt them, do not detract from their merits.
As for child support, which is being teased in school, if the situation gets out of control, you can try to explain to a child the basic rules of behavior with offenders:
- some parents advise children to deal with them active methods: figurerelationships directly, openly asking that are not satisfied with the mockers.Often these "finding" immediately go into a fight, which does not always win the one who is right.Yes, with some kind of hand it is a good way - he teaches future adult self to cope with difficulties.But he is - a very dangerous: the cruelty of teenagers not in vain was the "talk of the town" and the can end such "courage" scary to imagine ...
- the second popular way, which suggests the majority of psychologists, similar to the one that we offer forKids, teenagers need to explain that fully happy and confident people will not pay attention to the shortcomings of others, even if these shortcomings - real.So the problem of teasing - not he, but ... they are.Do not take "teasers" to heart.Above them, for example, you can laugh ... (attacks on offenders, not over by aggressors).
If the situation you are afraid, the child comes home with bruises, often cries, withdraws into himself, falls into tantrums more often than usual impulsive teenager - act.And do not hesitate to contact the social services or the police: health and your child's life is more important than the opinions of others who love gossip.
Articles Source: woman.delfi.ua
