Let's now see how the situation is related to the children in Italy.
Olga Merolla, three years ago moved from Samara to the Italian city of Perugia, shares his observations about parenting in Italian.
Can we say that children and parents alike, no matter what country they live?It is unlikely, otherwise adults in all countries were the same, regardless of nationality or country of residence.The atmosphere in which the child grows, it affects his personality and character forms.
first impression
Enough for a week to come to Italy to see how love here, just love and adore children.But what lies behind this immense love?Is all well forgive the child, explaining his misdeeds universal excuse "Well, he's still a little"?This and much more - in the story of the Italian point of view on parenting.
Just want to say that I have no purpose to compare the features of the Italian attitude towards children with Russian and, in particular, with Samara.They have so we have some sort, and certainly there is a lot in common.Moreover, Samara I do not live for three years, and many things about modern education simply do not know.
To begin with, it can be seen immediately, arrived in Italy.Children love not only their parents, uncles, aunts and grandparents, and in general all the counter, from the bartender and ending with selling newspapers.All kids are guaranteed attention.Passer baby can smile, pat his cheeks, something to tell him.Sometimes a parent at the same time, no one turns, as if it does not exist.By the way (but not hurt you comparison), then the same attitude to animals.For Italians and kids and dogs - an occasion to once again pricked and smile.
Italian pope
second point, conspicuous - Italian pope.If in the evening you will go to the playground, you will find there mostly dads, not moms, all of whom will actively be worn with their babies from a swing on a hill, a hill on a swing.
If you come to the pool or on the beach, in most cases with a toddler or a baby to play and mess around Dad while Mom reclines on a chaise lounge with a glossy magazine in hand.Do not think that the education of children entrusted to the popes: No, just the duties divided in half, and if the mother spends time with her baby at home, prepare it there and played with him in the garden, it really is home kid obviously will father, and do it withgreat pleasure.Whatever the shortcomings are not attributed to the Italians, but the fathers of these gorgeous!
Italian Dad never says "Children - a woman's business."On the contrary, it tends to take an active role in the upbringing of his child.Especially if the child is female!In Italy and they say the girl was born - father's joy.Pope babies love to madness, while the Italian boy, on the contrary, attached to his mother almost until old age.Italian macho as 40 years, who lives with her mother allows her to cook their own meals, wash and iron - absolutely standard picture, surprise is not possible in Italy.Such men are called "mammon."
Age parents
It should be noted the age of the parents.34% of Italian women have their first child after age 35, 6% - after 40 years.The number average age of first pregnancy is constantly growing: in 2000 was 25, now - 32 years.This is one of the highest figures in Europe!Give birth early in Italy only foreigners or accidentally became pregnant girl, to meet the family of young people 20-25 years old with a baby is difficult.
By the way, the situation has changed a lot of single mothers.Previously, this situation was perceived as scandalous, condemning these mothers, the negative spread, and their children.Who is helping them in special centers for single mothers, no one looks askance followed.In most cases single mothers - young girls under 19 became pregnant accidentally.Find a woman who decided to give birth "to him" in the age of 25-35 years old, complicated.
In addition, there is a tendency to give birth in a civil marriage, and to arrange magnificent wedding when the baby has grown.
This can be attributed not only the feelings and desires of the partners, but also by economic factors: a wedding in Italy - an important and expensive, modest party will not get off.So often a couple marries, only when there is a financial opportunity to throw a chic holiday.
number of children in the family
Italian families in small children.Usually, mom and dad are limited to one, sometimes - two, but it is almost rare.That is why all the huge flurry of parental love falls on a kid who feels from the cradle to the center of the universe wherever he appears.
Traditions
Children accepted everywhere take - for weddings, concerts, parties, dinners and aperitifs.From the Italian baby diapers is active "high life."Newborn babies almost immediately begin to walk and carry - specific fears Italian mom and dad do not experience, except perhaps for fear of infecting the baby with something.Belief in the evil eye and the desire to protect the baby from prying alive except in small southern towns or among the many foreigners who settled in Italy.
way, despite such an active life involving children, so popular in Russia slings, comfortable for walking, there is not accustomed.For three years in Italy, I saw all three children in a sling, and all of them were the children of tourists.Maybe Italian and sling used at home, but here on the street with him, they rarely go out, a clear preference for classic buggies and backpacks.
Fears
Italians are very frightened by tales of missing children, so it is rare to see small children running around unattended.Most often, kids are walking around his house, fenced fence in the garden.It is easy to find a family where a child 10-13 years old, but one he does not go to the street (not govoyar alone children even younger).In fact, many foreigners let their children walk alone in the 6-7 years: for the true Italian mothers is something abnormal and even wild.Also, children are always taken out of school parents, or delivers home school bus.According to statistics, 60% of Italian children spend their free time at home, watching TV, playing, reading.This is evident in the streets: young children and their parents a lot of teenagers about 15 years too short, but the children of 7-13 years, and especially to be seen.
Features of education
In Italy, an appeal to "you", including for the elderly, and teachers.For rudeness is not considered, moreover, persists into adult life: You are in Italy refer either to people much older or to someone who to contact for the first time (although many go straight to the "you", if turning to coevalor man a little older).
Italian children is rarely forbid something to do, so they are often rude talking with parents, grandparents and teachers at school.For example, the answer is "Leave me alone", "You're stupid," "Shut up" from a child 7-10 years older relative is quite common and even punished.
Children in Italy general often not a barrier "child - adult," they did not hesitate to "uncles" and "aunts", can go up to a woman reading a book on the playground, and tell her, "Go away, there's a place for kids!"
If you start to analyze this behavior, you can associate it with blind adoration "Bambino" in the family, and the fact that school children can safely walk around the classroom during a lesson, not sit on the call to a call to attention, withan atmosphere of freedom and permissiveness, in which they grow.
inexperience Italian children confirms and statistical studies.66% of European hotels have noted that it is kids from Italy - the most capricious, noisy and loud.Most of the problems surrounding delivers what such "bambini" very loud shout, scream and swear constantly using strong words.Young Italians adore with rush through the corridors screaming, making noise during the breakfast, ride the elevator up and down and break everything that they would find in a hotel room.From the perspective of parents all goes according to plan, as a child of "express themselves."
In Italy, few people dare to remark even the noisy kid, so a negative reaction to the cries of Italians outside Italy moms and dads do not realize and resent."As well, the baby's mouth shut?How can you? "Most parents are afraid that if a child with a childhood bully penalties and constantly gag, he grows quiet, suffer from complexes and pocketed.Moreover, to raise his voice to his son or daughter of default is seen as something bad and wrong, especially in a public place.People will look askance and condemn, so smile and wave as "Bambino" screams and rushes circles the supermarket.
not to say that many schools have children's corners, but the child always be located for maximum convenience.Again, the children's menu - not the most common, so it is often children eat adult food completely and almost two years to drink coffee (not every day, of course).
The address on "you", including for the elderly, and teachers.For rudeness is not considered, moreover, persists into adult life: You are in Italy refer either to people much older or to someone who to contact for the first time (although many go straight to the "you", if turning to coevalor man a little older).
Finally
Well, I would like to finish the debunking of one of the basic myths about children in Italy."In Italy there is no children's homes!" - As you can often hear or read this phrase.Yes, in fact this is true, since 2006, all children's homes were closed.But this does not mean that there are no orphans, or that they no one does.Education of children without parents, engaged in so-called "Casa Familia".Typically, in such a place there is the figure "moms" and "dads" among all the children of established family, fraternal relations, adults and children live as one big family.
motto of their work: "Give a family to those who do not have it!" In such homes are not just thrown in the hospital the children, but also teenagers whose parents are unable to fulfill their responsibilities towards them."Casa Familia" is rarely large - on average there may be 12 children at a time.
Articles Source: vospitaj.com
