Many of us have heard of or experienced such a relationship.That carry such a relationship?Should I start?There are many questions.One love and one regret.
pity reasons may be very different, for example children.The most powerful, in my opinion, the lever.They suffer, cry when the father leaves, and his heart is broken at the sight of weeping children, and all subsequent illness of a child arise from the fact that his father left the family.
In fact, the child is not sick, just so the mother manipulates feelings husband to stay.In war, as they say, all good.Naturally, when the father left the family, the children and the mother immediately recover emphasizes that, you see, you're back, and the children have recovered, they love you so much, etc.
What next?
Either man confused and do not really want to go, or would rein in his wife.Somewhere here deception or self-deception.A man may think that he was out of pity for the child, in fact, he wanted to stay.But he was looking for the cause, but the child was the very reason that is convenient for both sides.
usually after some time, the couple wish they did not break the relationship even before, and eventually begin to hate each other.Again, their children suffer.But is it worth while to keep a relationship that once nearly destroyed if none of the parties is not going to change?When the husband stubbornly continues to change, drink, yes anything, and his wife worked, or pretends not to notice, and "for the children" extinguishes the self-esteem.
Here it is worth considering whether such a sacrifice, and self-abasement?Is it worth your precious, only this man's life?But is this really the victim "for the children" or are you deceiving and issues its own selfish desires to the desire of children?Over time, the accumulated resentment appears from deep depression and dissatisfaction.The pair have conflicts, scandals.
She recalls past grievances and all the negative that had accumulated during their life "after his return," and it is this factor inhibits their own children.Maybe if when they divorced, each of them have built new, happy relationship, or vice versa, trying to build a new relationship, they would understand that they can not live without each other, but that's a different relationship - built on mutual respect and thrust eachother, without pity.Pity destroys personality, that regret, and one who regrets.
There is a second option
This is when a guy likes a girl, but she did not.He's cute, wonderful, and it has what it needs, but do not belong to the soul.For whatever reasons, it agrees to these relations.But in the end but irritation, she gets nothing.Slyubitsya endure, no longer suited to the modern world.It turns out violence directed at himself.
Imagine that you have long thought necessary to begin such a relationship or not.The picture you imagine something like this: it will go on your subject, to catch every word, movement, perform whims.You can only be grateful to this man.Also pity for him you do not feel.Dissatisfaction in bed you will be compensated betrayed him.This will make it even harder.So over time it will grow or depression, or hatred.So decide for yourself which is better to cut off at once and be done once very painful than every day to cut off a piece.It is cruel to destroy the life of another person.He is worthy of love, and you give him a chance to find it, that is to share his happiness.
Be happy and take care!
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