problem of loneliness was relevant at all times.It exists in the modern world.Of course, today people use the Internet and various communications equipment, allows you to chat unlimitedly.However, according to psychologists, who often refers to social networks, more than any other feel a sense of loneliness, that is, the absence of a kindred spirit.Sometimes a man comes up with any life events and history.And all this in order to attract attention.Often the problem of loneliness occurs in people who do not want to take the society that surrounds them.
They oppose themselves to others, are trying to protect itself from the world, and often go against the accepted norms and traditions.
child and loneliness
With the existence of the problem is easier to accept when one has no family, friends and loved ones.However, the situation may be different.Sometimes loneliness is visiting a person who is surrounded by family.Unfortunately, this phenomenon exists, though it seems incredible.
So, there is the problem of loneliness of the child in the world of adults.The arguments psychologists testify about the dangers of this phenomenon.After all, the fears and the emotions experienced at an early age have a strong influence on the formation of personality and, consequently, the entire life of a person.That is why adults should pay attention to the problem of their baby.
What are the reasons that the child gets lonely?The most obvious of them - the lack of attention from the people close to him.Often, adults are so obsessed with their concerns and problems that their child they simply do not have enough free time.Think about it, maybe in your family have a situation?If so, it requires immediate correction.In favor of such a step, said a powerful argument.The problem of loneliness, according to psychologists, leads to the fact that children become withdrawn, depressed and alienated.The child, provided a long time himself, goes into the world he created thoughts and fantasies.
reason alone at an early age may be the wrong approach to the issues of parental education.Some fathers and mothers mistakenly believe that it is better the child knows what he needs.Thus there is a disregard for the interests of the person has not yet formed.To provide this kind of pressure on the little man can not.And on this occasion, psychologists have a weighty argument.The problem of loneliness, which arose in the course of such training, is able to alienate the child from the parents, as gradually reborn in a misunderstanding.
How to protect the child from loneliness?
A problem requires immediate removal.Of course, the ways to solve difficult, but they do exist.Drive away from the child's sense of loneliness will help the continued efforts of his kin.The main tool in this will serve as parental love.But it should not be expressed in material goods, but in a sincere sensitivity, care and participation in the life of the baby.You have to keep interest in the affairs of his child and does not shy away from him when he invites you to play with him.
problem of loneliness in children's literary works
many writers and publicists rose theme lack of attention to the life and interests of the young person.They often talked about how the problem of loneliness.Arguments from the literature, which can be given on this subject - the story of Paul Sanaeva - "Bury me for skirting".The protagonist of the work - the boy Sasha Saveliev.He tells readers about lost dreams and unfulfilled hopes because of the moral indifference of adults.The boy had no toys and no friends.All it replaces only a small mouse.When she was gone, Sasha fully felt lonely child among adults.
The same sense of possession, and the heroine of the novel written by Dina Sabitova "Three of your name."This is the story of the terrible fate of the girl who took a hell half-starved beggar life, first in his own family, and then in an orphanage and foster parents.
basic idea of all the authors is the assertion that every child should be happy.And adults should take care of it.
Men loneliness
often representatives of a strong half of mankind have no loyalties and family ties.Some men find this state norm.Is it so?To understand this question it is necessary to consider what is in opposition to this argument by psychologists.
problem of loneliness, according to experts, can be covered in an inadequate self-esteem of men.Such a person simply walks away from his relationship with the surrounding people.He is afraid of criticism of their abilities and talents, which will bring him pain.
reason alone man can be a lack of communication skills in dealing with others.Often the basis of such immaturity is self-consciousness, which has arisen because of the trauma received in childhood or adolescence.
cause of male loneliness may be the presence of social phobia.The roots of this phenomenon lie deep and lie in imposing the boy adult opinion.For example, the beginning of kindergarten at the psychological unpreparedness of the baby.This causes fear and leads to a desire to spend time alone, away from other children.
reason for the closure men can become psychopathology manifested in depression, autism, schizophrenia susceptibility to alcoholism.The problem of loneliness there and the young guys who have a strong emotional attachment to his mother.However, not only as a result of lack of development or degradation of the individual person is not in contact with the world around him.As the direct opposite of all of the above can result in another, quite a strong argument.The problem of loneliness sometimes becomes an element of spiritual growth.Here we are talking about the top of the human development.
theme of loneliness men in literature
Sense of lack of affection pursues many representatives of a strong half of mankind.Numerous arguments to the problem of loneliness are directly related, occur in the works of Russian and foreign writers.There are books that are literally imbued with this feeling, and among them - the works of Gabriel Garcia Marquez.
In many works of the author raises the problem of loneliness.Arguments from the literature, from the pen of Gabriel Garcia Marquez - the hero of his novel "The Stranger."In addition, about loneliness wrote Albert Camus, as well as Truman Capote ("Breakfast at Teffani") and Hermann Hesse ("Demian").In these works, loneliness is a special life to the canvas woven into her hopes and torments, alienation and solitude, internal conflicts and contradictions.
powerful argument to the problem of loneliness, chose the path of service - a novel of Leo Tolstoy's "War and Peace".In this work before us is the image of the great commander Kutuzov.He saves the country and spare the lives of soldiers, giving Moscow without a fight.The main task that confronts a commander in chief - to save Russia from enemies with minimal losses for the army.However, the official authority of another opinion.She wishes to achieve fame at any cost.As a result, the author raises the problem of the tragic loneliness.The arguments for it - the resignation, then the premature death of the great leader.This is the fee for the decision.
Many works of Russian writers raised the issue of loneliness.Arguments from the literature on the subject - the hero of Pushkin's Eugene Onegin.At first glance, it can be attributed to the socially active person.Onegin gladly accepted in society.Moreover, the hero gets pleasure from conducting such an idle life.However, at the end of the novel Onegin it makes for a conclusion that he was always "someone else for all ...."
What other works raises the problem of loneliness?Arguments from the literature can be presented as follows:
- Turgenev novel "Fathers and Sons."His hero Bazarov alone in love and friendship and looks.
- Lermontov's novel "Hero of Our Time."In him the image of Pechorin - a multi-faceted loneliness, both lyrical and civil, as well as universal.
- comedy Griboyedov "Woe from Wit".Its hero, Alexander Chatsky experiencing loneliness, finding no support for his thoughts in society.His situation he perceives as a personal tragedy.
female loneliness
Complaints of this condition can often be heard from the fairer sex.Moreover, the theme of loneliness such care is generally for the women themselves.Unfortunately, experience the feeling may even married women or those who have a love relationship.
What are the origins of this problem?Psychologists explain its presence:
-complex and uncertainty when women compare themselves with the beauties on the cover of glossy magazines;
-stereotipami when ladies believe that only men like blondes marry a bitch, and so on. Etc .;
-Lack intelligence in finding a partner.
Be that as it may, the psychology of female loneliness concerns tend to lack a number of the beloved.On the origin of this feeling say even those divorced women who have children.His condition they project on the kid, saying, "We do not need it."A woman's desire to have a family laid by nature.Little girls in the kindergarten start playing daughters and mothers, in a plastic pot to cook soup and swaddle dolls.However, they dream of a beautiful husband and a luxurious white veil.
However, female psychology is that even wearing a wedding ring on his hand, the fairer sex can feel lonely.Often this is due to the fact that many families are living as if by inertia, and spouses are not interested in the mood and thoughts with each other.Often, this situation happens when a woman lovingly prepares dinner for her husband, getting back on duty "thank you."
Sometimes ladies themselves condemn himself to solitude after a failed romance.They are going through a painful situation, experiencing humiliation.And here comes the problem of overcoming loneliness.The arguments by psychologists indicate that it must be addressed.Otherwise, the woman will become even more miserable than before.To create a new relationship it would interfere with her fear of prejudice, that all men - is evil.
theme of loneliness woman in literature
about ordinary Russian collective farmer tells in his story "Matryona" Solzhenitsyn.It is a lonely woman who has lost her husband at the front and buried six children.Marya Vasilievna, was the name of the main character of the story, single-handedly struggling with the hardships of life.She was having work experience at the farm, do not pay a pension.I could not get it and pay for the loss of a breadwinner.But Marya has not lost his human feelings.She readily respond to someone else's misfortune, and continues to carry the cross homemaker.
very bright woman's loneliness is shown in Tolstoy's novel "Anna Karenina".This work is the severance of relations of the protagonist with all spheres of life.Here the author is illuminated and the problem of the impact of loneliness on the person.Arguments in favor of the love of Anna and Vronsky's doomed to failure are obvious.The alienation of the society and its rejection of any feelings that are contrary to morality of secular circles.Young and cheerful woman at the beginning of the novel finally brought to despair and die under the wheels of the train.
Loneliness elderly
problem unclaimed, the emergence of feelings of abandonment and lack of understanding on the part of young people often accompanies old.This is compounded by the fact that older people also suffer the lack of support and care of the state.But often it is a problem of loneliness man who devoted himself to others.Arguments in favor of the need to solve it - the social aspects of the issue.
What are the causes of loneliness in old age?This lack of family and children, or a separate accommodation from them.It is not easy and the elderly suffer the death of a spouse.For the Russian state is characterized by yet another problem of loneliness of elderly people.Arguments to the seclusion elderly - financial helplessness and inability to cope with the household and hygiene issues.
theme of loneliness of elderly people in the literary works about life
old village woman tells the story of K. Paustovsky "Telegram".Its main character, Catherine Ivanovna had to experience loneliness, despite the fact that she has a daughter, Nastya.The author raises the problem of loneliness of old people.Arguments proving its existence - is the realization of its main character is unnecessary, because the daughter visits her for the past four years.This leads to the fact that an old woman living out their days in solitude.
The same issue was raised and Pushkin.In his story "The Stationmaster" he showed how terrible picture of the old man alone.Hero of the story of Samson Vyrin daughter was left, to go after the favorite.
The way changes the human loneliness, clearly showed us Gogol.The hero of his novel "Dead Souls" Plyushkin he removed himself from his children.He was afraid that they will ruin him.Elijah was the result of loneliness degradation of the individual.
One of the problems residents of large cities
huge crowds in big cities does not allow people to meet frequently and does not have a close spiritual communion.All in a hurry and run for their business, often not paying attention to the person who is next.Women and men live as if by inertia.However, there comes a certain point, and each of them understands that came the loneliness, because next to nobody.Find the description of such a state can be in many literary works.Is it in the novel FM Dostoevsky "White Nights".In it the author raises the problem of loneliness of people in the big cities.The arguments supporting the existence of such a situation - the divergence of interests and total separation of people.At the center of the story of Fyodor Dostoyevsky - the story of a lonely dreamer.On his path of life I met a girl Nastya.Dreamer falls in love with her and tries to get help from the "prison" of loneliness.
But Nastya loves another, and remains true to his feelings.She apologizes for his treachery in the letter written by Dreamer.He forgives her, but by continuing to love her, is not alone in his cold understand the city.
