How many days would be able to live in the modern world, well, let's say, a nobleman from the hands of a measured average of the XIX century before going mad or sleeping?It seems that not very long.Over the last hundred years, the rhythm of life has increased many times, if not dozens of times.Social circle has expanded considerably.Burden of responsibility sometimes becomes unbearable.
What is our daily life?The high rhythm, the haste, the longing to do something to catch it.Weight problems, which postponed it seems impossible.Ah, if only has not prevented!But interpersonal contacts (at home, at work, in transport or store), unfortunately, do not always contribute to our personal interests and the interests of business.And we rush to overcome obstacles.Good luck!Only it always maintaining sanity?Hot head, as you know, is not the best advisor.In addition, excessive emotional stress unhealthy.
And if you equip some psychological attitudes that help reduce the neuro-psychological stress and successfully overcome the difficulties encountered in life?
One of the most important settings, perhaps - the maximum focus on actually executed.Try to disconnect from past memories and future concerns, focusing on what's happening now.Convince yourself - this is the most important thing.Self-deception?Perhaps, but self-deception ... for the benefit of the effectiveness of current activities.Stop analyzing past successes and failures, to dream and plan.I thought about it distracting.Our psychic powers are not unlimited, their important skill to distribute.Everything has its time: the time - and time to dream - to do business.It seems to matter sometimes have no strength.Especially if you failed.Without a will - art and technology management attention - in this case can not do.
And how to relate to this when it goes back into the past?Especially unfortunate.In short, "how the past."Why is that?Life adversity often give rise to intrapersonal conflict.It is important to skillfully respond to them.Remember Chekhov Ivan Dmitrievich Chervyakova?He sneezed in the theater during the performance.And what?Worries about the incident crippled forces embarrassed by the incident as serious Ivan Dmitrievich.He was tortured to death.And he, in turn tortured (though not to the death) for its general apology.A cautionary tale.
Unfortunately, often intrapersonal conflicts - a kind of "reaction to the past."There was something, what people do not want, can not agree.But you can not change.Reaction is it so strong, that is haunted.Scroll to the memory infinite detail dramatic episode, he became more and more tormented myself and sometimes others.Here, perhaps, it is appropriate to recall the rule that recommends D. Carnegie: "Do not cut chips!»
Really - what's the point cut chips?They have sawn.The same can be said about the past: "It has passed ..." analyze the causes of failure and to draw conclusions for the future myself certainly needed.Analysis of the findings ... ... But no more!Do not engage in masochism, repeatedly chewing elapsed.
But sometimes, the defeat of the spirit is so strong that there is no strength to fight.At such moments thought, "I've had worse."Imagine something worse than its failure.
order not to succumb to despondency of hopelessness some situations to gain self-control, we turn to the advice of Anton Chekhov."Life is most unpleasant thing, but do it very beautiful it is easy ..." To do this: a) be able to be satisfied with the present, and b) to enjoy the consciousness that "it could have been worse."
When your finger gets a splinter, rejoice: "Well, that is not in the eye!»
Rejoice that you were not lame, not blind, not deaf, not dumb, not cholera ...
If you do not live inso remote places, can not you be happy at the thought that you will not get into ugorazdilo so remote?
If you hurt one tooth, then rejoice that not all teeth ache.
And so on ...
man striking inherent ability to turn disadvantages into advantages.As is often true saying: "Would not it be a blessing in disguise!"Of course, not all of you can make candy.But in any case, we must remember the golden rule of psychotherapy: "If you can not change the circumstances, to change the attitude towards them."If you know what you can do in a difficult situation and hoping to find a way out of it, take action!And if not?Why beat 'head against the wall? "Look at it from the other side!
Try not to be alone with their troubles.Well, if there is someone to "complain to the vest."This may be a husband or wife, father or mother, a teacher or a doctor, and even the neighbor on the coupe, the occasional traveling companion, a man judicious, balanced.Such a magnet pulls.
Remove conflicting chronic stress help travel.The same effect is given by the action of the "creation to destruction" (chopping wood, washing dishes, knitting).Can benefit and action movies, sports.
«sadness, cry no tears, crying causes the internal organs."One is forced to come to mind these words of the famous psychiatrist KM Bykov: more and more medicine points to psychogenic nature of many diseases.Save from the negative influence of the past can be sad future.However, if you treat him optimistic.Let's try to define who you are - optimistic or pessimistic.
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