Professor Vladimir Gladyshev analyzed the behavior of women in the economically successful online dating sites.The findings were disappointing ... When it comes to finding love, successful careerists often behave with candidates as the subordinates ... or worse."A talk?"- It seems, the most difficult thing for successful women ...
My attention was attracted by advertisements placed on sites ladies, let's call them so okolobalzakovskogo age.More precisely, not the ads themselves, but a certain category of the authors of these ads.For myself, I call these women "business woman".I do not pretend to be a deep social and psychological analysis, but would like to make some considerations.
As a rule, ladies, these ads are placed in a special section called VIP.The details of this case do not know, but I think that the above-mentioned status gives to the user some, perhaps even very substantial advantages.Anyway, my attempts to send a message to some of the questionnaires in the VIP-persons nipped in the bud: the site administration kindly informed that Sia person wants to receive a message only on the VIP-persons.Trying to stand out, create your own social circle, even in the most democratic environment?
I'll try to highlight some general issues that are observed in the announcement of acquaintance cast quite successful, financially independent single women, middle-aged.
Firstly Offers VIP-persons, when compared with the usual announcements, very wordy.Sometimes - obscenely verbose.The lady is trying to convince the person who will read her testimony that she happened to be on the site.For the moment, nothing to do, on the advice of a friend.It is smart, intelligent, beautiful, which, of course, perfectly live without men / men.Then what about the appearance of the site?So, whim, caprice, nowhere to put your spare time.At the same time repeatedly emphasized that while a business woman is very expensive, so there is nothing to anybody distract her for nothing!
In general, the representation of yourself, beloved, is carried out in such questionnaires about the same, as does the notorious girl peteushnitsa.Of course, the age-adjusted and very serious material possibilities.But the psychological model of behavior remains the same.Primitive-brash, that is, on the brink of a foul.
Secondly, almost all the successful business woman is extremely demanding of those who they "would like to find." Рост-вес-возраст-глаза-уши-нос-квартира-работа-автомобиль- At the applicant to communicate with them it should be that way, however, these parameters wants to see "zakazchitsa" ...
impression that the person is not on a dating site, and come in an expensive boutique, and not very well aware of their desires, chooseshis clothes and shoes.This pleasure rides sellers - not out of necessity, and to show who is who in this world!By the way, psychologists have long been explained that the self-made man, if he is at every opportunity niggles service personnel - is constitutionally a poor person who was never able to get rid of complexes.Such "poor rich men," wrote the great American writer O. Henry.However, it was in the early twentieth century, not the XXI century.
Third, the tone of the profiles of the ladies must, as the authors believe, demonstrate originality success of a person's life: ease of style, wit, originality, freethinking.If you wish, intelligent lady slope.Unfortunately, very often it fails.It is impossible to demonstrate what is not.Man has long been accustomed to the fact that others play up to it carefully, because depend on it.Without realizing it (or maybe did not want to believe it?), Successful woman perceives himself and his behavior is not entirely adequate.Or even completely inadequate.Hence, flat jokes, and outright rudeness, and the desire in the beginning of dating, even before it began, strictly lower potential counterparts.
Fourth, such VIP-profiles are accompanied by a large number of well-made pictures that are obviously designed to confirm the financial position of the image on them women.Cars, boats, CIS countries, exotic animals.Sometimes, a few photos, so to speak, ambiguous or too outspoken.For example, an expensive Japanese car driven by, half-turned to the camera, sitting middle-aged lady.With the remnants of the figure.On the lady miniskirt and a little more frankly than required by etiquette, unbuttoned blouse.The man has something to show.And she did so shows!Such pictures are very common.
I tried to talk to some of these business women.With messages.The impression is very, very ambiguous.It was possible to read the obscene jokes and words, for which even the men give us in the face.There was a rather interesting chat, even highly intelligent.I will not generalize, but I will say that immediately catches the eye.
Unfortunately, a business woman in her quest to "be the first" always and everywhere is so addicted that they forget about the elementary common sense.A man with whom you want to meet, it is hardly perceived as a business competitor, which is required to take by the throat.Unless, of course, the purpose of communication is just friendship.And no desire to prove (to whom?), You're strong, capable of any man a ram's horn twist or smear on the asphalt.Or that it is very nice, to get him to sing the song that you want to hear ...
It seems that the majority of business women appear in the "Web" is to here to prove their superiority over men.This, alas, they panic fear of normal human relationships, hiding them behind a wall of requirements, orders, instructions."A talk?"- It seems, the most difficult thing for successful women.Perhaps they have lost the habit of talking, so they are only interested in the answers?And, please, just this question!
I tried to change the rules of the game are several proposed business woman.Normal questions about the children, about the relationship with them caused a very real panic!Lady nervously said that it is looking for a man online, so these discussions it to anything.I had to say goodbye.Let him continue looking for a man.I am sure that will."I like you, I tell you, this is your problem, it's - my!"I can not say, but the impression that some of the ladies are even ready to pay money to men for their specific services.But the demand creates supply ...
In my opinion, the Internet, which seems to be can and must help people to solve the problem of loneliness, in this case does not help.Moreover, such communication from a lonely person only gets worse.A woman brings into the framework of virtual communication behavioral model that helps her achieve success in business, but because the relationship of close people - is not a business!Succeed in business is much easier than to build a pleasing both the relationship between a man and a woman.
At the end of the XIX century, when men and most women still do not have to defend against feminism and feminists when it was only about the emancipation of women, an evil man and a brilliant philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche said something like this: women who seek emancipation, failedrealize themselves as women.Therefore, they are trying to take revenge for a man who is considered the perpetrators of the collapse of their life!But how shrewdly observed half-mad German, this "place" do not hurt men, and myself ...
in much, except for the technical possibilities allowing to spoil each other's life is particularly active, has changed since then?Probably because men and women beginning of the III millennium enthusiastically playing virtual games, it is much easier than to be happy in real life.But it can be considered a successful man, if he is unhappy? ..
successful business woman playing online games that can not be won.Unless, of course, does not change the rules of the game.Do not think that a woman can be happy only when she - Woman ...
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