A simple exercise NLP for girls hesitate about marriage

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So you want to get married.And not so very much want, but I'm thinking that would be nice.But somehow it's not so easy.Not that difficult to go and sign, a question - with whom?There are many publications devoted to the question "How to ..." (seduce and fascinate).One can only question is: who to fascinate?How should it be?

Have your mind such thoughts?If so, the following exercise is for you.



Perhaps you definitely know exactly what you want.In this case, you will also be helpful to do this exercise.

So, imagine that we were in a fairy tale.And, of course, our main character is a fairy tale - you Beautiful Princess.

You - Princess at the ball in honor of your N-th anniversary.Notable guests presented expensive gifts to you, and now everyone expects, what gift would make the Good Witch."Well, my child, - she says - you have become an adult, it's time to think about your marriage.Of course, you're so fine, that your hand will find a lot of applicants, but you deserve the best.Take the blank sheet of paper and write, what qualities should have your future husband - and Prince, has all these qualities, will offer you my hand and heart. "

you, a beautiful princess, you take a piece of paper and write down all the best qualities that only a man can possess.

And suddenly, a flash of lightning, thunder and a sudden gust of a tornado is a new character.It Wicked Witch that we are on our celebration is not invited.

«fun, princess, - an ominous voice she asks.- And already compiled a list of the qualities of the future bridegroom?- It comes closer and takes my hands.- So let yet never in any prince uzhivёtsya and recorded a couple of advantages here! "Witch strikes his staff on the floor and disappear with a roar.All guests in horror.(

Good Witch suitable lifts lying on the floor of the list. "Alas, - she sighs - I can not do anything. And now, indeed around the world you will not find the prince, having at least a couple of these qualities. However, if you saywhat is the quality is the main thing for you, then Prince, has this quality, it is sure to make you an offer ».

Now it's your turn to think. Take a piece of paper on which you write down all the best qualities that can only have a man.

get about such a list (in no particular order):

1. Strong.
2. Beautiful.
3. Smart.
4. Good.
5. Loving.
6. Tender (tender).
7. Careful.
8. Rich.
9. Generous.
10. Funny.
11. Sexy.

etc.

You can continue to list on. Just try to avoid unnecessary specifics.For example, do not specify the conditions, such as "that gave flowers" - is entirely included in the category of "loving" and "caring" or "affectionate" Similarly, do not specify the external signs, such as high-low, thick-thin -all it takes into account the category of "beautiful".You do not need to specify the quality and 'healthy' - we mean that all options for the appearance and character will be in the framework srednenormalnogo health, physical and mental.You can not just continue the list, but also to erase any of these qualities, if you think its bad, not good.

now put a list in front of you and try to imagine the characters one by one, having one of these qualities and did not have the rest.Setting a fairly simple, but execute it will not be so easy.You need to create in your mind the most vivid and full-fledged images and simulate their behavior in a given situation.

Just do not need to exaggerate shortcomings.For example, if you imagine the image of a "good" Prince, it does not mean that it will be weak, ugly, stupid, rude, careless, poor, greedy crybaby.No, he just would not stand any force, no beauty, no mind, no money, and love is not to be, and if they will - not you.But what is good - that's for sure.

If you coped with the task in half an hour, the exercise is not counted.For this task you have to go back a few days until your images will not be fully and clearly tangible.For someone it could take a week, someone more.Can you imagine yourself as a writer, to create a character for his novel.

When all the images gradually crystallize, you have to answer the question which of the created images for you is the most appropriate.As a man and as a husband.It is clear that all of them will be very far from ideal.And yet, one of the images will be the most tolerable.Mission complete!

Now you know what kind of quality in a man is critically necessary for you.Most likely, it will be not the same quality, of which you "knew" before.Just before you do not focus on this as his attention, considering it a matter of course.Well, for example, really wanted a rich husband, somehow believing that he "automatically" be generous.

And knowing what quality in a man for you really is a major, you can take a fresh look at the surrounding men, primarily in assessing their presence is of this quality.Of course, real people are far from the fairy-tale characters, in this case - for the better: they have other advantages.But you have to check them must, above all, the presence of this particular critically needed you money.

question: what if a few people have this quality?In principle, you can repeat all the exercises first, alternately connecting to create an image of the already known quality with all the others.Thus found the combination may not show up in your real environment.This does not mean that necessarily need to wait for such a person is encountered.You can quite make a choice from the existing set corresponding to the main condition of the grounds, which considers to be most relevant.

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