Family life without fights do not happen.Even the most ideal family is safe from them.It is only important as it is, the family goes out of their quarrels.It is important that after a quarrel not thinned the ranks of the family.If the irritation has accumulated, it is, of course, give each other a claim, but you should always remember one rule: "Before entering, think about how to get out."Eastern wisdom.In other words, before you start a fight, think about how you finish it.
If this quarrel are you going to put the last point in their family life, then start immediately with the onset of, do not let the opponent to open his mouth, falls upon him an avalanche of words, the storm of gestures, glows from domestic resentments that you have accumulated for the entire life together, splashed out on him all his anger and finish the play smashing crockery.
Well, if you're going after a quarrel yet to make up, it is better not remembering old grievances (after they had been a quarrel and reconciliation), give a chance to talk, and her husband, but without raising his tone.You just have to convincingly and calmly analyze their conflicts.Always claims to each other, because nobody is perfect.But if something does not suit each other, we should not still talk about it once their girlfriends, friends look at them compassion.You decide the problems of his family, unable to endure his life in the public debate.
Try to make your ears hurt myself alone, and she immediately seems less than what you had been saving the soul in silence a few days or weeks.During an argument talk specifically about what happened, because not all versed held family life, but only the last event, the conflict.The quarrel be very true, do not go on about his grievances to argue as if to make judgments about your girlfriend quarrel with her husband.There you were at the top!
So whether at an altitude now.After all, now you judge your life, and your justice depends on whether your family to live on.Frequent quarrels you shake the family erected a building and it can collapse.You're a woman, you are more gentle and kind, admit their mistakes immediately if guilty.You see how your husband is suffering from its being wrong, but can not make the first step towards reconciliation, so help him.He will be grateful to you, go out to meet him, admit that you were something wrong.The very finish quarrel reconciliation.
No need during an argument to leave the house, it should first of all bring to the possibility of reconciliation, it is impossible to quarrel lasted for days and weeks.And must be able to quarrel, and quickly move away from the fighting.Then the argument will not be visible in your life, and the husband will assume that you will never quarrel.Just can not long remain silent during quarrels.This situation is just heating up and may end up a storm.War and peace in the family depends on the woman, on her skills, her tact, that it regulates relations.A woman is like a buffer, it can soften any blow.
Know how to forgive.Sometimes even that is just necessary thing is not forgiven - her husband's infidelity.This does not mean that you can forget about the injury, but if after the recognition you see how he took it that he is aware that all blame in front of you - forgive him.Think rightly judged, analyze without tears and tantrums may, in this change there is your fault, maybe it was not just lust or weakness, and the reason is more serious.There is always something to think about.
Eastern sages also say:
- It's hard to live in sin and holiness even harder.Man is fallible, human behavior is unpredictable, and unpredictable.Smart person who is aware of his mistakes quickly.Very often, it also happens that the partners are so used to each other, which did not hesitate to begin to criticize the shortcomings which of course everyone has.Still, try not to stoop to this.It may happen that in response to the harsh criticism or rebuke your partner is affected by criticism, and not stand otpariruet no less harsh sentence about your shortcomings.Then the endless mutual criticism did not stop.
a rule of thumb: - If you have been critical partner, do it gently, tactfully, inoffensive, keeping an eye on his face, it will tell you, do not overdo it if you have not offended you.- Criticism to listen in silence, not to find fault with a partner.- But all the same offense, and show your partner you need offense.
Firstly, because he needs to know that you hear criticism of how to react to it;Secondly, it is necessary for you as he sees that criticism, even fair, you have to submit it tactfully and gently, so as not to hurt mortally.
Take Me as a rule - Do not make fun of colleagues, friends, acquaintances and relatives.Otherwise, very soon it turns out, what will you allow yourself to make fun of her husband, and then he will.
It is surprising, but there are still couples who can not quarrel.Sometimes, of course, that they quarrel, but reconciliation comes so quickly that they do not consider it a quarrel.Normally, differences that arise from them, can not be called fundamental, generally happy couple is already formed with the same principles, life values, so the occasional disagreement - the little things.If there was a quarrel, in these families, there is almost the same rules if they are to summarize, you get: "The debate is forgotten truth.Stops dispute cleverest. "
smartest should be a woman.
conclusion is:
1. stop fighting, leave the bathroom, toilet or just come to the tap and Score (literally) a mouthful of water.
Come to the mirror, be quiet, and your zeal diminished.
Even if you know that the law is still first come out of a quarrel.As they say pilots need time to "go on the wing."
2. in family quarrels are no winners, everyone loses.Even if you won, I think what the price.This victory defeated your family.Should I win?
And another.Last.
3. Sleep on it.If the problem is overdue, the quarrel is about to occur, leave the resolution of the problems until the morning.It may be that, having slept, you do not wish to pursue this contention, to sort things out and the problem is solved very simply.
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