Sometimes children do not listen to us, and they must be punished.Timeout - this is one of the options humane punishment, really - is the termination of contact with the child for educational purposes.
options timeout set, but usually, punishing in this style, you leave a child for a short period of time alone, ceased to communicate with him, or deprive ourselves of its dialogue with those with whom he entertained.Sometimes it sounds for the child as punishment, sometimes - as a help: to give him a chance to calm down.
Many people think that a time-out - this is sure to put a baby in a corner and did not even turned to!No, it is not.Option "soft stool" for a normal child is much cleaner and safer: get up to mischief - you need to sit in a chair quietly to calm down.Thus you can do anything you want, just leave off the chair can not.
As many mothers, the time-out is especially good that the child is sitting on a "quiet chair," they come to their senses and calm.It seems that this method is sometimes more beneficial effect than the children, and the parents ...
timeout - not necessarily a punishment deprivation is largely cease reinforce behavior which we estimate to be undesirable.It is necessary to take into account for the child even our screams at him - in a sense, the joy, as the child gets attention from us.And if we stop paying attention to it, it is often only because of the child calms down: why, indeed, misbehave when nobody is looking?
For example, a four-year kid in rage shouting: "I hate you, I hate you!" And pounding his fists on the feet of the mother.Instead of continuing to bicker with him, try to act the opposite: stop paying attention to the child and begin to engage in their business, the bones will break, he will not.You and your child a break, a time-out.Typically, after a few minutes fury replaced wheezing and lost views ... Now turned his attention back to the child, hug, hold to him and changed the subject.
And once the timeout - it will encounter the parent and the child's will.Who is stronger?
example, a child is naughty, refusing to obey their parents.If so, you can tell him: "I will not talk to you, play, and communicate until you acting."This can result in an hour, and at two o'clock strikes, but if you show patience and perseverance, the child still go and quietly grumbling, change clothes, take away, sit down for lessons ... The main thing that he knew - if you said, so be it.
What else can be like a time-out at home?
For example, you take a child by the hand and leaving in his room, get out of there all the electronic entertainment.Books and simple games can be left, but the phone, Ipad and other pleasures of life, including friends - all that a child is deprived.If your child to listen to you, then even easier - put it on the chair next to you, let alone sitting and a bit bored.
many options: leave one in the room, put in the corner, put on a rung of the ladder, etc.The main thing - not for long (several minutes) and be sure to explain why.
parents wrote: "We have a child out of the kindergarten has brought the concept of naughty corner - a corner for naughty.Naprokaznichala and said: "Go sit in a little corner!" Well, my husband and I decided to practice.We worked great.Who is not put in practice, if that is enough to warn about the future.Yes, and in the transfer of Nanny 911 are highly recommended time-out - to put anywhere, even on a sofa or chair.They even put a timer: 1 minute for each year of the child, ieif 2 years - 2 minutes to sit for 8 years - 8 minutes.With timer child clearer when you can go, and it is clear that it will not last endlessly. "
If your child does not listen, does not sit on a chair, out of the corner of his room, and runs away, it is necessary to physically block the action (keep the door or stand in the doorway, blocking the way), and weeping and cries simply to endure.Actually, crying and screaming for the child's health is not harmful, and reasonable support around you.
difficult to use this method in a public place, but if not all terribly run and you are at home, this approach has already been successfully used, it will help you in the street and in the supermarket.In the supermarket as a room for punishment, you can use the shopping cart (to put a child) or a corner store.As an option, you just leave the supermarket ... If you took away the child's hand, then deal with the child easier, and if you leave the supermarket and left it there, then, of course, you are not completely gone, but simply pretendedleft, and watched the scene hidden.
If a child bullies in the car again, you need to start counting.Penalty: you stay on the sidelines and do not drive until everyone calm down, or turn around and go home rather than walk.
How effective is this method?At what age and in what style it should be applied?
ideal method does not exist, a timeout is not for everyone and not always.
Firstly, this method only works immediately after the offense: a delayed penalty is no longer effective.On the other hand, a time-out is effective as a method of an urgent cessation of outrages and works wherever is faltering "method of the natural consequences" and "learning from their mistakes": they work reliably, but not very soon ...
Second, this method is most effective when the child is 3-4 years.On the other hand, if you transform a time-out and will be accompanied by a warning known to the child, such as "Time!Two!Three! ", It will significantly increase the efficiency.This embodiment can be used in the period from 2 to 12 years.
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