There are many definitions of rudeness, but whatever terms it is not indicated, we all know that it is absolutely unacceptable form of communication in a decent society.And if people want to engage actively with other individuals a high level of development should be to get rid of coarseness.
causes of rudeness
- Education.The man was brought up in such a way or in such social conditions in which the rude behavior is the norm.Accordingly, the individual simply does not understand or accept other forms of communication.Rudeness for him is natural and familiar.
How to get rid of coarseness in this case?Man for a normal life must be reeducated.It is best to visit a psychologist, also can be solved by actively cooperating with the new prosperous society and the completely sever ties with the former.
- Surroundings.Sometimes a situation where a person has received a normal education, but by fate was in such a society, whose brutality is a normal form of communication.
Getting rid of rudeness?There are two options: either a person learns to communicate, respectively, environment, or change it.Sometimes there is a situation when the people around you can understand only if you communicate in their language.It is an inevitable necessity.If the people will keep their domestic breeding, there is nothing to worry about.Time passes, the situation will change - and the individual will return to normal society, or learn to live with this.If there is no exit from the situation, it is necessary to change the position.
- Negative emotions.There are a number of negative emotions that may provoke rudeness.In this case, it is not necessary to put on the human cliche "snapper", just at this time and in this situation is absolutely adequate and well-mannered person can lose control.Emotions, which may trigger flash of anger - it's fatigue, irritability, frustration.It is a way of psychological discharge.Sometimes rude - a natural reaction to the pain.
How to get rid of coarseness resulting from negative emotions?If these flash rudeness are rare, they are not a big problem.Every discharge of their, perhaps this is not the worst option.If it is a frequent phenomenon, which adversely affects both the individual, and the people around him, then we should find other ways to relieve tension.For example, exercise.
When the cause of the pain is the rudeness, the problem requires special solutions.If possible, you must get rid of the causes of pain, rethink the situation, practice meditation, seek professional help from a psychologist.
- way to feel more significant figure.Often the cause of this rude behavior accompanies adolescence, puberty, but not always.Why does this occur?Man wants to be someone important, especially worthy of genuine admiration, but applicants for this role and so much.And if he does not possess special talents, all this could lead to rudeness.This kind of reaction to negative emotions raging inside a person.At least in that he does not like everyone else, he is able to go beyond the usual social fabric, and the rest - no, they are afraid.And he is courageous, he is "cooler" and, therefore, better than most.
How to get rid of coarseness and help your children?It is necessary to give the individual the opportunity to realize their desire to excel, to help, to support.Moreover, it is necessary to rely on the preference of the person rather than on their aspirations, that you could not realize.For teenagers a very good choice to be a sport that tempers not only the body but also the nature, and creates a strong, strong-willed person.The girl, too, can realize himself in the sport, but not everyone.Decide what is most like your child, and act.
If rudeness comes from himself, this phenomenon is, oddly enough, is much more difficult to eradicate than protect against the return of rudeness.What can be done?
- to admit the problem, set a goal and clearly formulate it: "Yes, I grublyu, but I want to get rid of it," and realize what is needed, how the problem will be solved, what outcome you want to see.
- Keep a diary, disassemble reasons.
- to appoint a punishment for every roughness and a gift for each success.
- Meditation Silva give good results.
How to respond to rudeness?
Answer rudeness is not only possible, but, in most cases, even necessary.And it's not that snapper putting in place, you will feel an inner satisfaction.The main thing is at an early stage to establish the right to a decent attitude to themselves in society, and also to exclude such incidents in the future.If you constantly tolerate rudeness and silent, the situation can only get worse.Life - it's not a good tale, learn to put in place some members of society have to a child, and in many situations it is justified.Just always necessary to understand when it is appropriate and when there is a modest eyes droop, and sadly, with regret, sigh (for example, when you are on the case criticizes the boss).Always soberly assess the situation.How to deal with rudeness?
Mate rude
As an option for impulsive, prone to hysteria and irrational person, he has the right to life.But this is the lowest level.The response rudeness can lead to squabble, a scandal even fight.Is it worth it to sink so low?After all, there are much better ways to deal with brawlers.And you will be able to boast of its "reinforced concrete" tranquility.Many admire it.
Ignoring
Failure - a good option, but only for those people, the soul which reigns absolute icy calm, and they are able to pay attention to the snapper is not more than a small dog yapping.If you have raging inside passion, seething emotions, and you lead them more deeply and proudly silent, nothing good it will not do.Moreover, scientists have proved that these unexpressed emotions over time, turn into a serious illness.Do not let this happen.Better corny rude comment.
Pity
very good way to answer to rudeness.And an acceptable and appropriate and dignified.And it's true that most bullies are able to cause only pity.Whether the cause of education of rudeness, negative emotions or inner pain.
Laughter
no better answer you wronged man than laughter.A sincere and joyous laughter.Sometimes it helps to defuse the situation, otherwise the punishment will be a good boor.A phrase With that said precisely and accurately, will allow you to get away from the place of the real winner of the battle.Therefore, we learn to respond to rudeness.
Interesting answers to rudeness and crudeness
- look at you, I understand what is meant by "dead-end".
- Maybe you never occurred, but the outside is absolutely not interesting to watch the display of your low IQ.
- This combination of dementia and unsightly appearance, I have not met.
- Get away, you spoil my aura.
- Note - this plinth.And remember, this is your level.
- What you look so awful, does not mean you have to behave the same way.
- Do not show me a version of its primitive development.
- I sincerely feel sorry for you, I must be very hard to live with such a flawed mentality.
- Tell me, when you were born, nature resting?
- on someone rustling bag?
