Man - a being extremely complex, with a highly developed nervous system and pronounced mental activity.We are all - to a greater or lesser extent - are subject to emotions.Anger, irritation, tearfulness, or euphoria, "wool-gathering" and "rose-colored glasses," swings in mood - all these manifestations of our world of the senses, without which people would long ago have become a robot-like, a soulless creature.
tears in response to emotions with plus and minus signs
What emotions throughout life we often experience - positive or negative?The answer to this question is quite difficult.And who under force to count how many times we stretch lips into a smile, or sigh with relief intensely frowned and wiped tears treacherous.This is just for the princess Nesmeyana buckets were placed during her sobs so on it and a fairy tale!Is it possible not to cry at all?From heartache, physical, sorrow, and even with joy?Absolutely - of course not!And why, for example, to restrain themselves, if the eyes on the wet spot on the long-awaited meeting with a loved one or if you have something immensely amused?On the contrary, these emotions carry with them only positive, cleansing, and inspiring moments.And whether it is necessary not to cry when really hard and some unpleasant events crushed stone on the heart, disturbed consciousness, confused?Psychologists say clearly: on the contrary, in such cases do not just need to cry, but you must!Why is that?Because splashing out all that boiling, we thus obtain a psychological discharge, and the body is released from stress.If you hold a negative, to experience silence, the emotions are accumulated, clutching our psyche, just as the pressure compresses the spring.But this process is not infinite!And one day, followed by an explosion, which could be the result of depression, neuroses, insomnia, and many other serious problems.Do you want to own in any situation is not crying?Then get ready to become the pre-patient therapist!
When should restrain themselves
We reviewed the situation in which the tears are a natural protective reaction of the organism to external stimuli.However, any emotion - it's a double edged sword.When she becomes affective, ieexcessive, exaggerated form, the picture starts to get too clinical look.And here, indeed, it should be understood that in some cases it is better to hold back and not to cry than to dissolve itself and nyunit on every occasion.And the atmosphere is not always the open display of feelings.If you are offended, then to show the tears when the offender - so humiliate himself even more, to show their own weakness and sensitivity, that is, submit your enemy another reason to gloat and rejoice.And you need it?So let's think about how to learn how not to cry in an inappropriate setting.
Learn to control
Yes, the first tip sounds that way.Develop the self-restraint and self-control, the ability to control emotions, to show a strong-willed moment.Good support you in this regard will have a different Motivational.The easiest and most affordable way to all, both to calm down and not to cry - a few times a deep breath and count to 10 ... Who and who and more.The main thing is that after such an exercise you more relaxed, pulled himself together, and feeling returned to more usual course and degree.That is to say, advice for situations in terms of force majeure.And in general - a long and hard work on yourself!
proof by contradiction
How not to cry if you want to?Another good tool - the ability to look at the problem from a slightly different position when it ceases to appear fatal.As in geometry - the proof by contradiction.Out husband to another?Yes, it hurts, it is hard, it is insulting, hopeless ... Epithets can endlessly pick.And you can sit down and try to think in a different way: the holy place is never empty, and "his" care - the prospects for new friends, hobbies, flirt, and so on.One page inverted life - begins.If you have children - here, of course, the situation is more complicated.But the financial and other assistance, "the former" no one cancels!Because it is not necessary to behave as if "life was cut short."No!What does not kill you makes you stronger - Take adopted this very worldly wisdom, and she will teach you how not to cry out in pain, and to defend himself, his inner world from the outer violence.
The smile
Psychologists often recommend when starting to scrape the cat's heart - go to the mirror and smile.First, at a stretch, even if your smile is like a grin.Then again, again and again ... Until then, until a joyous smile, sincere, from the heart.And at this moment you feel like it becomes easier, lighter, and that tormented, it ceases to be so important.Repeat the exercise often, smile at her reflection, enjoy meeting with you!Tested in practice this method is good not only for those who think how to do so as not to cry.It helps anyone to cheer up, to gain vitality and self-confidence.Therefore, bearing in mind the famous words of Baron Munchausen, smile, gentlemen, smile!
distractions
If you are interested as never cry, have to disappoint you: it is not feasible.No wonder the poet said: "He did not cry, he did not live."But to reduce the experience to a minimum - it is you can.How?Learn to switch and distractions.Do you feel that the "freewheeling" and is about to engulf - try to escape.Someone grabs for this vacuum cleaner or laundry detergent, some enthusiastically scribbling on a typewriter, trying to kill "on edge" a foretaste of the new attire.Someone makes a kitchen and original recipe and the other pulls his hair out of the swamp Kruchina rhythmic music, comedy films or extremely topical book, prayer, meditation, exercise equipment and even sex ... All means are good, if only given the necessary mental relaxation and servedeffective lightning rod.
Turning to the cry
Yes, if you stifle the tears, it is useful to be banal, "shouted."The cry we express not only the accumulated emotions, but also the physical strain.Close in her room and say everything that comes to mind - fiercely, without restraint, in a voice.You almost immediately feel better, you'll see.However, then we will talk with the neighbors, and not about the weather ... But that's a slightly different story.
Peace of mind - in our hands
the natural, ieinner peace - a special state of harmony with oneself, peace.He achieved a choice of ways of thinking and the ability to look at life's problems from different angles.
- Learn "is grateful to accept" not only gifts of fate, but its lessons wisely with life.
- Look around you with the knowledge, "all I can" rather than "I am a victim."
- Learn to wait for change: all the sorrows are, the Earth spins, and time is running forward.Do not twist the
- yourself!Do not try to be a negative situation and believe in them.Instead, visualize a positive, optimistic picture, dream boldly and elated.The universe will hear you!
- Hence the following principle: do not live past!If it was unsuccessful, you should not repeatedly gnaw itself - it weakens your energy, will, consciousness.If successful in the instability in this - it will be you "chop" and also did not give rest.
- Do not scold yourself constantly.But do not feel sorry for all the time.Love yourself, forgive, but not forget about objectivity.
And finally, most importantly - Cultivate positive thinking and live rejoicing every new day.After all, life is priceless - it is your life!
