Nowadays, many daughter often complain of uncomplicated relationship with the mother of her husband, claiming just that mother-to "get".And this expression is often uttered not only by those who have just married and did not have time to adjust to a new family, but also those who already have a fairly decent experience.What to do in a situation where a second mom just does not give plaguing constantly interferes with his necessary and unnecessary advice?One thing is for sure: if you "get it" in-law, it is no longer tolerate, as if such intervention is not limited in time, it will continue to only get worse.
Precautions
Let's start with the fact that when an adult married couple living with their parents in the same house that is not theirs, it is almost always a lot of difficulties.In the past, when people lived in large families, which was attended by at least three generations, even though such questions arise, but smoothed by the fact that in such circumstances, the majority lived, and this situation has been accepted.The status and influence of each member of the family depended on his age.Now all are striving for independence and, therefore, such conditions for the majority of young people is unacceptable.That is why, in order not to "get it" in-law, which was originally planned to be a separate life, regardless of the parents from both the husband and the wife.Let it be an inexpensive removable apartment, let it will be difficult, but no one will disturb you yourself build your family happiness.
What if in-law "get it"?Practical advice
probability that the daughter and the mother of her husband will become wonderful friends, is the same as the probability that they will turn into bitter enemies.Real cases when they can not get along, in fact, very few, and if they occur, are related or mental disabilities, or with abnormal looping to son.All other cases can and should be overcome.If you "get it" in-law, we must first try to bring it to a frank conversation.Try to put yourself in her place.Not so easy to take the mother, and let go of her child, which was invested in the whole of life.So you should calmly explain to her that you love her son, no less than her.Try to quietly listen to her advice and tips, let it be nice, but proceed as you see fit.Sometimes the cause of molestation in-law becomes her jealousy.In this case, the daughter's annexation is perceived as that "Okrut" and took her beloved son.In this case, you need to ask your loved one to give the mother more attention to her not to have the feeling deprived.Here's another good way that you can use if you "get it" in-law on economic issues.It is called "provocative therapy".If a second mom loves to give his advice, when her unexpected appearance expressing joy, and referring to his employment with the task of all the cases in which it is (in her opinion) understands better.Then quickly go away for work or for any other need, and in the evening heartily thank and say that it scared you to help out.The main thing is to gain fortitude and courage of this transition period.And then, suddenly, all is gradually self-adjusted.
