Every man has his past, and it is unique.However, as the present and the future.But if what we live today, and what will happen to us tomorrow, depends on us, the past few days, we are not subject to.There is no such person who would not raise events of the past.
Someone fleeting echoes of it left, some warm happy memories, while others bear the heavy burden of injustice, error, pain and shame that deny power to change something in the present.It would be wrong to think that one who is engaged samoedstvom, grinding certain unpleasant events of the past, experienced more misfortune than the one who has positive memories, and draws from their vital resources.
Of course, there are people whose lives - pandemonium, or vice versa, a true paradise, but there are not many.Usually, all we are given equally good and bad, and all of us, remembering its past, will find over than bitter cry, and something to rejoice heartily.But what often comes to mind, depends only on us, that is, from the warehouse of our character.And, fortunately, we can work on yourself!
Useful nostalgia
Generally what we remember at the moment, is only a reflection of today.If we are in good spirits, we are doing well, then the memories will be easy and pleasant.Sometimes, it's the fleeting vision of childhood: the smell of mom's warm hands grandmother procession through the streets on the shoulders of the Pope.
At another time - a modest (or perhaps just the opposite), kiss, tear off someone's lips, or victory in the yard fight.Not a pleasant experience when they met with their peers than the resurrection of the event hanging: remarkable high school or college days, the first party without parents!In favorable circumstances the most minor detail can cause the sea luminous memories, even those who do not suffer from excessive sentimentality.
In fact, the memories of this kind are much more useful than most people think.Despite the fact that nostalgia is always accompanied by a bitter taste of sadness and parting words ad nauseam - live in the present, psychological researches prove that a walk down memory lane can cause powerful elation.
regularly remembering all the good quarter of an hour a day, you provide yourself with positive, and gradually become more cheerful and happy.Perhaps first you have to work on yourself, artificially causing such memories, but as you know, we very quickly get used to the pleasant.Behind the scenes it becomes a daily habit, brought to automatism.
nostalgic evocation of the events of life, the ability to find, even in the sunniest not have positive aspects, provide us with good humor and priceless experience.People correctly using inexhaustible memory resources, have higher self-esteem, less likely to be depressed.As a rule, they stand firmly on their feet, they tied a strong friendship and family ties.
Bad memories
And whether you want to look back to the past?But, along with useful nostalgia, have memories that literally paralyze us, not giving a look to the future and enjoy the present.For example, why do the media exaggerate the terrible events of the past days: war, terrorism, disaster, terrible crimes.Of course, we should be aware that such facts have taken place, but why do we hammered it into the brain, once again presented with a bunch of horrible details?It feels like this is a deliberate strategy - someone needs us to be intimidated and unsure about the future, thinking of yesterday's tragedy.Whatever it was, you must learn to resist it!
return to individual human memories.
you ever look back, reconsider a thousand times the same things, having fun poking around in a basket of dirty laundry and fish for the next "skeleton" of the deep cabinets memory.You thoroughly understanding setbacks, looking at what the cause, wondered "what would have happened if I had not ..." worried and crying about past mistakes and obliging memory throws you more and more occasions.
If this unsightly picture of you recognize yourself, then you can say about you:
- live yesterday, and, therefore, does not move forward, wasting their energy reserves in vain, where you have longno;
- lose the future, as living the past, you do not have this, and in fact it tomorrow will be our last;
- have illusory idea about how to act in certain daily activities, as divorced from reality due to the full of his showdowns rubble of the past;
- are in a constant depression due to the imperfection of the world and the lack of justice.In constant search of the lost you afraid to enter into a new day, or did not want to live.
am sorry.If you do not want the entire life has flown by, take action immediately.Throw off the load of past mistakes and misfortunes, begin life with a clean slate - do it's never too late.
So, look into the past makes sense to take advantage of invaluable experience to overcome the current errors and to enjoy pleasant memories.The main thing is not to overdo it, in any case not to reminisce long time, and then turned back to his head hard to go forward without stumbling or falling.
Do not mourn the death, yesterday's losses Affairs today not tomorrow yardstick mer.Neither the past nor the future into the game do not believe.Believe minute current, be happy now!Omar Khayyam
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