You want everything to be perfect?You spend a lot of time on continuous improvement: appearance of your work, the surrounding space, friends and relatives?You would think that "imperfect" you will not be love?Perfectionism ... This dignity or a serious problem?Is it worth it to encourage and cultivate or necessary to deal with it?
Most of us set ourselves certain, often very high standards.To some parents from childhood taught that you need to fight for love, to be better, smarter, more diligent.Someone is trying to constantly compete with other people ahead of them in all, hungry for recognition and approval.Perfectionism - this excessive desire for the unattainable ideal.It would be advantage (and it often is in the eyes of other people, who see the results of our achievements or labor), if it did not cause much internal tension.
matter how ironic it may sound, perfectionism - an obstacle in realizing our true potential.Why is that?For the simple reason that in the pursuit of perfection, we sometimes forget about the main thing: about life itself, about the purpose of our work and worries.We are becoming less effective.Even when we finish one task, we keep coming back to it, to understand what could or will change for the better.As a result, we have a sense of satisfaction, and project that we Corp. without end, and is "imperfect."We spend our affairs and tasks a lot more time than required.
Sometimes improvements not only improve what you have worked for, but also harm to the fetus efforts.An example would be, say, the presentation of a project.We think that the topic is not yet fully revealed, we get stuck in an infinite addition of details and details of references and citations.As a result, the project loses its transparency and clarity.Remember that is very much better - a true enemy of the good.
Perfectionism - is also a constant expectation of the "ideal" moment.That will likely never come, but without which we can not make decisions.This can be compared with the expression "to wait for the sea weather."There will always be something to which you can complain about: it is too cloudy, the sun blind, too cold, unbearably hot.Clinging to the little things, we lose sight of the bigger picture perspective.
What other breeds complexity perfectionism?This tension and increased anxiety.We expect to see problems before they actually occur, and panic come up with solutions for them.It becomes an obsession prevent possible problems.However, most of the problems either never appear or is insignificant.Perfectionism in psychology considered primarily from the standpoint of the stress and anxiety that it generates.Although this quality helps to constantly strive for higher standards and become better, frustration is inevitable.And it is followed by frustration, a sense of insignificance, loss of self-confidence.
How to deal with perfectionism and whether to do it?If the property is acquired the character of obsession, neurosis, psychotherapy can help it.However, the person will be able to do more for themselves.But do not stop being a perfectionist, and learn to manage their condition.
Learn to look at the whole picture, to isolate the most important thing.Try to strictly follow the plan.For example, if the execution of a business you have allocated 2 hours after they take a break, do not let unnecessary detail and grinding swallow you even half a day.Learn and say to yourself, "Stop."Yeah, you know things, or the imperfection of the project and that you can still add something and improve.But, map what you have achieved with the intended purpose.If it is made in the main, try to switch off and do something else.Perhaps the task of casting a fresh eye, you realize that everything is already good enough.
