Most of us, being in a society where we are almost unfamiliar with anyone experiencing some discomfort.Someone suffering from embarrassment, fear and feelings of inferiority, for someone this test is accompanied by arrhythmia, indigestion or a headache.These states are due to our personal psychological and mental problems.Many found themselves like symptoms, seek the help of psychologists and therapists, to help learn to control negative reaction or even completely get rid of them.However, there are people that solve these problems quite differently: hikikomori - a hermit in a modern society.They break all social contacts in the real world and go into myself completely or virtual reality.Nowhere is working and not studying, most of them are dependent on their parents.This article will try to find out who are hikikomori, what reasons lead people in this community, as well as the features of this subculture and its impact on the individual.
What does that word mean?
Translated from Japanese
When and where there hikikomori?
every developed society, no matter where in the world it is, requires its members to conform to whatever standards and requirements.In Japan, in contrast to most other countries, the company is waiting for the parents, and they, in turn, from the children appropriate social standards.For the Japanese, it is, above all, a successful study, the highest score by passing the tests, so you can start climbing the corporate ladder, and emotional restraint, perceived by Europeans as a cold.In the late 70-ies in Japan were first hikikomori.They are young and not very people who are tired comply assigned to them by society and family expectations, unusual for them to wear masks and play roles imposed.In order to avoid social contacts and interactions Hickey, so-called modern hermits retreated to his room.
cultural foundations of this phenomenon
Analyzing what hikikomori, it should be noted historical and cultural roots of this phenomenon.The country of the rising sun until the middle of the XIX century was closed from the western world.Japanese culture is quite specific.Loneliness is regarded as a manifestation of austerity and self-knowledge and the world in solitude.This is a definite step necessary for human development.That is why many Japanese people perceive Hickey as the hermits of the traditions of bygone centuries.
Unconditional love
In Japanese culture, the phenomenon - amae.It is the unconditional love of a mother for her son, which to a certain extent contributed to the emergence of a hikikomori.Such qualities as constant care for her child and maternal virtue prized in Japanese women first and foremost.Japanese women are willing to accept the child and sympathize with him, no matter how old he is: 5 or 35 for Japanese mothers easier to cook and deliver food in the doorway Hickey than to take his hand and lead to a psychologist or psychiatrist.
who becomes Hickey?
If a decade ago that a hikikomori, would only tell the Japanese, but today more and more teenagers and young people around the world as much as possible to limit their contact with the real world and deliberately fall out of the social care zhizni.Prichinoy Hickey,As a rule, it is that a person can not meet all the requirements that are presented to him the family and the school.As in any other country, there are weak and not particularly socially active children, slow or unwilling to communications, and just introverts who feel laggards, uninteresting to their peers and teachers.They would like to meet the parent and teacher expectations, but that's just wrong, and they do not remain almost anything else, how to become a hikikomori.
Hikikomory are born or made?
Hickey not born, they are a result of the unsuccessful experience of communication or personality changes as a result of any traumatic events and relationships.Hikikomori syndrome develops over many months, and in most cases, years.Negative experiences various stresses and unresolved problems gradually accumulate, will eventually lead to the fact that at some point a person decides to hide, to dissociate itself from the traumatic reality and its relationship to your home or room.How long will such imprisonment, no one can answer, since it depends on the individual, the individual psychological characteristics of each person.
What do Hickey?
Hiding from the real world in his room, Hickey read, play computer games, listen to music, program, or simply look at the walls of his shelter.However, most of spends his time watching anime or manga.Hikikomori often confuse night and day: they sleep all day long, but at night - the time of their activity.Quite often, those who consider themselves Hickey, spend a lot of time talking in chat rooms of various online games, forums, social networks.This is due to the need for communication, as well as the ability to create a virtual reality in a different, more "cool" and successful than in real life, self-image.Among them are freelancers using the possibility of remote work.Some hikikomori facing the street, but only in the evening or at night to buy food or pay bills.But there are those who rarely comes out of his room, only occasionally sneaks into the kitchen or the bathroom.It should be noted that feed those who consider themselves Hickey, parents, leaving food on the table or the doorway.
Often hikikomori, aware of its own otherness and the fact that they can not overcome their problems, hate themselves and their own surroundings.In some cases, anger and aggression are directed not only to himself but also to parents and others.
Hickey elsewhere
greatest number of hikikomori in Japan today, some researchers call a number from 600 to 850 thousand people.This phenomenon is also common in Asian countries with high population density, such as South Korea and China.In Europe, there are also Hickey just call them neet, which stands for «not in employment, education or training».The literal translation into Russian means "not in employment, education or training."In the US, the people leading this way of life, called the «basement dwellers» - «the inhabitants of the cellars."Do
Hickey in Russia?
Real hikikomori in Russia is not very much.There are several reasons why this phenomenon has not become widespread.First of all, economic: if the average Japanese family may contain Hickey, the economic situation of most Russians is that no neet not last long, and either go to work or "overthrow" of constant parental notations.Do not forget the peculiarities of the national psychology: we often run away from problems at home, than seeking to stay with her alone in his own room.Those who consider themselves Russian NIIT created the group hikikomori VC.Here they are dealing with "related" souls.
Hikikomory: a parasite or a sufferer?
a result of the foregoing, there is a reasonable question of good or feels comfortable if people become hikki.Na think the average person a hikikomori - a loafers and idlers, who comfortably on the parent's neck, and the build of a "poor".As the most common among young people living full and active social life, including Hickey there are, but they are few.Most of these hermits and recluses have trouble communicating and interacting with people.For them difficult or even painful to be in human society.Some of hikikomori, reportedly leaves them on different network resources, we would like to change and get out of loneliness, but they do not have the courage, strength and self-confidence.Each Hickey needs an individual approach, as frank parasites among some people vulnerable to mental and specific individual features of communication or other features of the behavior or development.
there a way out?
Like most of life situations, that they, with rare exceptions, we can find a way out.It is difficult and even virtually impossible to help those Hickey, who is seriously disturbed psyche or progressing any mental disorder.Today in Japan already are special centers set up by the Association of Rehabilitation hikikomori, where people with similar problems to help socialize and establish the communication process.
in Russia similar problems usually involved psychiatrists, which means drug treatment and other psychotherapeutic methods of trying to "extract" Hickey said of his "shell" and learn to live in society.
Hikikomory art
first sign, which showed Hickey in the movie, was the tape of Daniel Sugawara, 2004 "Tamago".It tells the story of a Japanese boy Kiyoshi, who lived more than three years in the kitchen at home parent.Live, he communicated only with her younger sister, all other contacts took place via the Internet.Parents who are unable to do anything with his son, his shame and all his friends said that Kiyoshi studying abroad.
After this film the Japanese managed to romanticize this phenomenon.Suffice it to recall such anime about hikikomori as Welcome to the NHK or Yamato Nadeshiko Shichi Henge.In the third part of the movie "Tokyo!" - "Shakes Tokyo" - just like in the film Cat Girl Kiki, the main characters - Hickey.The main actions of the characters of computer games such as Yume Nikki and Silent Hill 4, on their way of life - the true hikikamori.He turned his attention to a social phenomenon and the famous Japanese writer Ryu Murakami.His thriller "Parasites" protagonist Hickey is slowly but surely coming to the brink of insanity.
