What is flattery?Do you know how to flatter and why do it?Let's philosophize a little dive into the world of psychology.
What is flattery?"Flattery - verbal spirits", - said the legendary Coco Chanel.And it's really true.In the explanatory dictionary Dahl stated that flattery - it's insincere approval in order to achieve objectives.I think everyone knows it, but you know how to recognize the flattery, you will not confuse it with a sincere recognition of your merits?No?And you know why?The reason lies in our psychology.I'll explain now.
Think of basic knowledge in economics Maslow pyramid, in which all human needs, depending on their importance.We are incredibly important:
- physiological needs;
- security;
- affiliation and love;
- respect;
- knowledge;
- aesthetic needs;
- actualization.
most ordinary person can easily reach all points except the last.But in order to completely fulfill your potential, you need to make enough effort and patience that the strength is not for everyone.
If you - not recognized by all the identity and nature of their demands, our subconscious mind finds a way: we begin to offer its importance as far as our conscience dictates.Here comes into play flattery.In my opinion, perfectly summed it up by Jean-Baptiste Moliere in his work "The Miser": "Since there is no other means, do not blame the one who flatters, but the one who wants to be flattered."
This once again confirms the idea that sometimes rough flattery works wonders in communicating with people who are so hungry for recognition that he was ready to neglect warnings about the inner voice speaking of insincerity.So what is flattery - evil or good?
Flattery - a cheap praise, in other words, saying aloud that thinks of itself your partner.
What is flattery in the world of decision-making?
Dale Carnegie, Sigmund Freud and other prominent psychologists have proven that the only way to convince someone to do something - is to give him the opportunity to want to do it.And the most effective way - clever flattery.
Historical documents show that all great rulers were susceptible to flattery, and thus a vicious sense of history they worked far.As an example, I want to bring Queen Victoria, the last representative of Hanover.During her reign enormous influence on its decisions rendered Disraeli, who was the most exquisite flatterer during the existence of the British Empire.
I am not in any way encourage you to practice flattery in everyday life.Conversely, it is undesirable.What is flattery?It's a fake, which, like the fake money or works of art, will never lead you to the good.I foresee your thoughts: "What is to be done?"Quite simply, and, again, it is due to human psychology.
Man 95% of his time preoccupied with thoughts about yourself.It should be a little distracted, and you can easily examine the interlocutor in his positive qualities, admirable.Feel free to talk about them with your hand, it is sincere recognition of him as a person, have succeeded in some areas.
Please read these thoughts, you yourself have come to the conclusion that such flattery, and whether to use it?And maybe, after all, to try to see something good in an interesting person to you?
