As fond of saying the hero of one of the most popular TV series of the past decade, an eccentric doctor Gregory House - "Everybody lies."Is it so?Statistics show that even the most honest and open people occasionally tell the truth to others.Why a person is lying, and that pushes him to it?
Why?
There are several main reasons that push a person out to represent the real situation in completely different colors or even hide some facts.Most often a person is lying when:
- afraid to offend or hurt the person, which is intended for this or any other information;
- fears that there will be criticized or condemned, does not want to be punished for any offense his (just like a child, yes :));
- seeks to show their best side than it actually is.
more rare, but also a possible reason why a person is lying, it may be a good imagination and inability to distinguish fantasy from reality.
How to?
Pro lie detection of non-verbal cues (facial expressions, gestures, etc.) has been said and written a lot already.However, much less address the topic of how to understand what the person is insincere in his speech.Meanwhile, even if you miss the sight of a non-verbal sign, the way a person speaks, you will be able to review in any case.
1. Ask questions.Generally, people who lie, are more focused on what they say, but not how.Therefore, it is likely that a person had, without noticing answer your question words that were uttered by you a few seconds ago.For example, if you ask, "Is that you broke the computer?" And hear a response something like, "No, I did not broke the computer" - is one of the first signs that a liar in front of you.
2. Often lie detection is performed on the pace and intonation of speech.The man, who was forced to come up with an explanation of the course, will speak a little more slowly than usual.If he had time to come up with a "alibi", then most likely, it will be a little faster (still, all you need to get to say before I forget!).When a person is lying, it can often add to the story a great number of small and unimportant details.
3. Protracted pause in speech and grammatically incorrect sentences, often repeats - another sign of a lie.
4. If you have changed the subject, and the source actively support you in it, significantly relaxed - so the old theme was unpleasant for him.It is likely that you have not heard from him a single word of truth.
5. Try to ask the interlocutor to describe the events in reverse order.If a person is telling the truth, it is easy to make.But the liar will start to panic and get lost.Instead of an epilogue
We found the main reasons why a person is lying, as well as several ways to test the sincerity of his interlocutor.A large amount of information about the lies in all its manifestations, etc.You can get online - try to search for materials on such an interesting topic as a Polygraph lie.
However, in order that you may never have to find out why the person is lying, and thinking how to deal with this - try to do is always to be very honest with others."As the call, so the echo" - do not forget this simple truth!
