At different times in different people's different attitudes towards participation in the labor husband mothers.Somewhere husband present, somewhere in there, somewhere just seen somewhere helped.There are presently adherents of only two genera, when my husband and he takes birth.
But I would like to narrow down the topic of our conversation to the familiar to most readers of modern conditions and to discuss the presence and participation of the child's father at birth in the hospital.
a good thing?Is it right?Is it for you personally?
If you look at the situation from a more romantic point of view - the duty to defend his men a woman and offspring.Female bears, gives birth, nurtures the child - and the man she creates the conditions for this, giving her food and safety.Such is the approach a little cave.
If we consider the participation of her husband in childbirth through the prism of this function - we see an absolute benefit.
What exactly can a man do at birth?
Being together with his wife in the delivery room, the man can give her a lot of support.
- Physical assistance: for example, to deliver to the delivery room, to bring things to prepare all the necessary documents in the waiting room, to help settle, stand up, sit down, to change, to supply water to support a woman, so she did not fall when it's in the bathroom, give her the opportunity to literally hang on his neck, etc.
- Moral support: It is important to tell her that she is strong, she manages to recall that most of the way has already been passed and left quite a bit, and do not forget the words of love.
- Communication with the hospital staff: in the delivery room at the woman in childbirth often befalls a barrage of questions from midwives and doctors.It distracts her from birth, from being able to cope with contractions, breathe correctly, relax, etc.This can slow down delivery, make them very painful and lead to unnecessary interventions.Much better would be if the answer to all these questions is the husband mothers.When invited for a medical intervention, that the husband can talk to their doctors to find out whether it is necessary to intervene.After detailed discussions with doctors, it can help to decide on maternity consent or refusal.
Sometimes it happens that you need to call the midwife.Or, conversely, were asked to leave so as not to interfere with - imagine a situation where the ear mothers are more nurses and loudly discussing what is happening in the next room.So the father of the child, of course, there is something to do in the delivery.
support at a difficult and crucial moment - is not present manifestation of love a man?
Of course, many women expect their partners presence and support during childbirth.
And if the new mother does not want her husband was present at the birth?There are also women who are in a difficult moment want privacy, they do not need to be sorry, they do not want someone to have seen them at all.Such, however, for some reason less.
Yet you should not be offended, if the wife does not want your presence - to give birth to her, and because she and address.It may be some of his thoughts on this subject, perhaps it is ready to share them, try to understand it.
But is it always so smooth?
Sometimes the woman is afraid that after the birth of her presence at husband might grow cold to her.Needless to say that with good, strong relationship, this does not happen.But if the relationship between a man and a woman had shattered, the birth as a process, and the mere appearance of a child, can serve as a trigger for further collapse.
way, on account of the cooling of the fact that the man was watching his eyes not intended for the physiological aspects - in fact to prevent it, it is not necessary to refuse the help of her husband at all.Just agree with him that he would not watch where it is not necessary, and as he leaves the room, a woman in labor if you ask him about it, and no hard feelings!
happens so that the partner is pregnant woman, unknown to himself, so attached to her feelings that literally fuses with her, and instead support - pulls her deeper into her own personal fears and experiences.Sometimes women even have to engage itself in order to support her husband.Anticipating the likelihood of such a reaction, even a woman can refuse the presence of her husband's birth.However, this can be avoided with appropriate prenatal preparation.
What involvement do you expect from your partner?
- Be sure to discuss it with him!
- Do you want it to be hard as a rock?Or is gentle?
- to make you a massage?Or did not touch you?
- to talk with you and your requests fulfilled in silence?
- Do you want a permanent presence in his room?(Then do not forget to take it a little more for sandwiches) or you will agree that it is sometimes out of the room?
- Maybe you do ask him to come out at some point?Then arrange in advance to not be offended.
- Ask you to turn it when the baby will be born?Would you like to cut the umbilical cord himself?(Yes, if you ask, maybe he would be allowed to do so)
And if he does not want to attend?
Well, it also happens.Childbirth - the process is very powerful, emotionally charged, and the observer may not be very simple.Perhaps your husband is not suitable.If you get him to participate in this through the power - nothing will better give him another opportunity to take care of you.In this case, use the help of an experienced woman - friend or sister, and everything will be fine.
And sometimes circumstances do not permit.Also it does not matter if you have someone else who is able to help.
Many women also believe that prefers to leave his eldest child in the safe hands of his father than for all deliveries to worry about the two-year, abandoned with strangers.After all, for a good birth mothers must be calm.So if calm is achieved only by the fact that her husband is with an older child - then the husband should be left with an older child.
In any case, do not delay - have a talk about it with your partner right now, it is really important!
Olga Krassenshteyn
Articles Source: ru.close-to-heart.com
