Why so often have to be disappointed in their expectations?Says psychologist Anna Golitsyn.
To understand why, we are not waiting for the promised 3 years, and sometimes 10, 20 or even a lifetime is enough to see a few commercials.You irritate diapers and pads, a new hair dye you've tried - no better than the others, "gum" you truly hate and do not drink beer.But yonder pretty shampoo could try - suddenly, however, the hair will be better?
It is calculated on the huge blocks of advertising: they work according to the law "today you are lucky tomorrow - me, the main thing - to be on the eyes!".What is advertising, unless the promise?Often - unrealistic and always beating on the wallet to believe, because the cost of advertising is incorporated in the price of goods.So, promise - is primarily self-promotion, which, if we klyuem it costs us dearly, for the price of the promise contained all the forces that put promised!
Conclusion 1
not be angry with promised - it is already a lot of work to do to convince you to believe him.
Conclusion 2
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If you wait for the board to believe if someone's promise, it already means that you doubt the very possibility of its implementation.Believe me better to own subconscious mind, which is trying hard to keep you out of frustration!Gullible you encourage people to lie, in particular, unrealistic promises.In religion, this is equivalent to "the introduction of sin."So think - whether to be trusting?
Do not push a man, forcing him something promise you, as you provide it yourself for a long wait, and give him a loophole excuse in case of failure - the fact that he was forced to promise you the impossible.
Pin 3
have time to enjoy the promised, it is desirable to quickly obtain.
But how?Psychologists advise to accustom yourself to every promise to answer a short question "when?" - That is, to specify when it will be done.By doing this you will save yourself from the noodles on the ears, and others - from unnecessary lie.
Conclusion 4
best response to any promises is by no means "Thank you, I will wait and see!" And "Yes, I know that tomorrow is never" or more correctly, "You know, life has taught me to believeOnly actions, not words! ".
emphasized in dealing with people that you expect from these actions and not words - and then you stop to feed your sweet lies!
should never believe the promises, if:
- people have repeatedly lied to you;
- you know that he is deceiving others;
- you know, that man is prone to self-delusion (wishful thinking, sometimes without realizing it);
- person promises something, doing something from him or not depends not only depends on him.
Articles Source: aif.ru
