This insidious charisma

term "charisma" often evoke the ambiguous attitude and is subject to a large number of stereotypes.These stereotypes prevent us from using charisma as an object of employees to enhance their professional and personal effectiveness.

Stereotype 1. Charisma - this is only an external effect, the vivid impression that a person makes on others

Oh, how many "novice charismatic" "history", and failing to achieve real success only izthe fact that the external "success" they very quickly "blown away" from the inside!How many professionals, once well-proven in a particular area, and later filled up similar projects to the surprise of its own managers and service personnel!And all this - because of the mismatch of the external image of the "energetic and competent professionals" and inner sense of insecurity and discomfort in the course of the project.

External impression - the image of a business person - certainly very important for them to achieve success, but it should be distinguished from Charisma.

Charisma - is the quality of human (professional), which is determined by two factors:

external impression that a person makes on others: it is positioning and how attractive

Inner sense of self: how it is comfortable and confident

combination of levels of external impressions andinner form the degree of comfort in the situation of human charisma.

«Syndrome gray mouse" - a form of neharizmatichnogo behavior, where the discomfort is combined in a person with low environmental assessment.The problem of "gray mouse" - is that they are usually not involved in the business.Often the "gray mice" are professionals chosen field and the direction of its own activities are not by vocation, but because of the pressure of external factors (the need to earn money and make a career).Formal execution of their duties, shifting responsibility for the result in the other, a complete indifference to the results of its work in conjunction with the constant fear of being convicted of substandard work and punished the leadership - the distinctive features of the employee with the syndrome of "gray mouse".

«Syndrome unrecognized stars" - a form of behavior neharizmatichnogo in which a high opinion of his own merits combined with low environmental assessment.

Often we make mistakes, considering these charismatic people because of their bright external image.In fact, the image of this short-lived.The lack of social recognition, unfortunately, is not a signal for people to self-development, and is hostile to the world.It turns out "vicious circle": the more an employee is trying to assert itself, especially negative feedback it receives, and then resent society and behaves more or less adequately.

«genius syndrome - Samoyed" - a combination of appreciation of others and low self-esteem of man.These specialists are never satisfied with the results of its activities and is always "delay" end of the project, constantly feeling the need to redo everything and bring to perfection.All attempts to convince them to perfection of their results are often not conducive to change their point of view, but quite the contrary - even more aggravate their doubts and insecurities.

All of these behaviors are examples of underdeveloped personal charisma.

Charismatic human condition - it is harmony and balance between his inner state of comfort and successful external behavior, approve others.

Charisma - is a quality person, in which he combines a high level of approval of his behavior around and optimum sense of self with self-esteem.

Charismatic - those lucky people who manage to reach the top (point of optimal behavior) - the point where they are satisfied not only others but also themselves.

point of optimal behavior - this is a form of activity (action, work, activity) in the implementation of which the person is a maximum acceptance from others and, at the same time, the state of maximum comfort in itself.

Different people have in terms of optimal behavior (TOP) are different.

widespread phenomenon - with the top professionals in the field of public speaking skills (charismatic speakers) that are mediocre negotiators.Also, frequent skilled sales managers with top in pre - sales talks with the customer, but at the same time, unsuccessful in managing people.That's why the idea of ​​nomination to the position of experienced sales managers sales does not always lead to success.

Stereotype 2. Charisma can not be developed.Charisma can be given only on the nature and inherent only in the great world, top-am, VIP-s and the stars of show - business

Charisma (from the Greek for "gift of God") - is a manifestation of human individuality, that it "highlights"(traits, skills, talent), which distinguishes it from the others and contributes to its unique success in life, determining the destiny of man.

Individuality Every person has: each has its own freely determining his success in business.While some people have a greater inner strength and therefore show their charisma and always follow it, while others - the weaker and vulnerable - "buried in the ground the talent," succumbing to the negative influence of the environment and not doing what they are for - reallyinteresting, but what "should".

technology of human charisma is as follows.

1. For a man formed area of ​​self-discovery.This range of activities in which a person tries himself and "groping" precisely those areas where it is most successful.These activities often include: "Business - presentation", "negotiation", "sales", "administrative cooperation" and other

2. Trying himself in the Zone of self-discovery, a man builds his "line of charisma ', moreapproaching a Point of optimal behavior - the activities in which it is both a success for society and get the maximum satisfaction for himself

3. Line Charisma is built in phases for such spheres of human existence as:

body and the overall image of the person: physical revealedblocks and converted into trigger point charismatic behavior

emotionally defined roles, which are the most resource for human

volitional: forming a plan of action and style of influence, which is the most power for the individual

rational scope: It is recommended the optimum style of presenting informationand intellectual activity

Thus, a separate "bricks", gradually, to build a harmonious and balanced style and way of human behavior, which is the trigger of his charismatic successful activities.

Stereotype 3. Charismatic leaders are always the loudest and brightest

Charismatic leaders are "loud" and "quiet", "bright" and "muted".Quiet insinuating voice of your head may sound charismatic than dozens of screaming voices from the street."Little black dress" Coco Chanel, put on a decent shape and the place will look charismatic surrounding bright and colorful costumes with feathers (and this is the secret of "style icons").Recite Mayakovsky desirable loud and bravura.Pasternak - quietly and softly, with flickering candles.Esenina can sing.And only you can shoot Pushkin cartoons.

Charisma may be different.The most important thing - it is always a reflection of our personality.

working on the development of human charisma, you can go in two main ways: gain and contrast.

Charisma gain generated through the strengthening of the dominant role of the human personality.An example of such a charismatic Anatoly Wasserman, his charisma is based on strengthening and bringing to the absurd manifestations of his personality type - intellectual.

Charisma contrast achieved complement the existing behavior of its opposite.For example, the charisma of Renata Litvinova (personality type "artist"), with its outrageous facial expressions and gestures built on complementing long intellectual arguments and claims to a depth of content.

most important thing in the development of charisma - to understand and appreciate the individuality of the employee: how it looks from the outside as it sounds, as the manifests itself in movement and statics.Understanding and acceptance of oneself in all natural forms - this is the first step to becoming a bright personality, which is not only successful in society, but also internally harmonious, and thus can be as effective in their work.

Articles Source: trainings.ru