man from early childhood surrounded by other people.However, nevertheless many people contact with the society is often a source of problems.It would seem that if we constantly communicate with their environment, we should have no fear of humans.But somehow before public speeches, the need for important meetings at work and in other similar situations where we need to prove himself, it turns out that we are not ready.How to overcome your fear?How to become self-reliant?
In a number of cases may be due to fears of some painful events that affect the mind, becomes a source of social phobia, when a person does not want to go out, afraid to communicate with others.But such cases are rare.
Completely different is the situation when a person is healthy, but for some reason is experiencing some difficulties in social contacts.For example, a man confident in his own right, but to defend their point of view can not.Others do not know how to express feelings so that they are understood by people close to him.Some of their own modesty and a keen sense of tact are afraid to make contact with a person who is nice to them.They like something is holding the inside, not allowing to build social relationships.Someone dependent on other people's opinions, attitudes and fears evaluating all the time so keep in the shade, but secretly wants to be a leader.Over time, these problems can lead to bitterness, resentment of the world and the closure in the "case."Why is this happening?How to overcome the fear of your own?
paradox is that avoiding intercourse for the sake of their own fear is a protective mechanism.Only at first glance it seems that the closure in your own world makes life more relaxed.In fact it is not.
Human nature is selfish.If the environment feels your fears, in most cases, instead of helping him, you can just wait for affirmation by "skromnyagi."Of course, there are units of the Samaritans, who are able to express sympathy and lend a hand, if they see that someone needed.But as a rule, people - "predators."So you need to protect yourself from them the most.So, how to overcome fear and to fight back in difficult situations?
Uncertainty in many educated from childhood: strict parents, teachers do not understanding (albeit unconsciously) a lot to break a child's personality, require submission.Fears live in most people.
can overcome fear, without resorting to external assistance.To do this, you do not need a psychologist, you can even do without the "vests" her friends and relatives.
To get rid of fears and gain confidence in themselves need to be trained (or work).Success in sport is dependent on muscle mass and elegance skills.Also in everyday life to achieve success will require training.So communicate as much as possible, even if you do not feel this need.Travel transportation, sellers at the store, neighbors - everyone can become a "gym" to develop your confidence and freedom from fear.So you will understand how to overcome fear, and be able to cope with it.
While communicating concentrate on their interlocutor and external behavior, not trying to figure out what he was thinking as you perceive, and what impression you produce on it.You need to learn to focus on external communication, to forbid a "internal monologues-arguments" that give rise to the notorious fears.This will see the reaction of the interlocutor, to understand what he meant.In addition, since you can find inner balance and get rid of physiological problems in communication (dry throat, stuttering, sweat on the forehead) and psychological (you will not forget what you need to say and get lost).
You can also try to resort to the method of visualizing their fears - to make a written list, and then burn it.This will be a psychological relief from what frightened you before.Just finding inner freedom and start to communicate on an equal footing, you will understand how to overcome the fear.
