Psychologists have long noticed and were able to confirm numerous observations, on which is based psychology: jealousy is directly related to self-esteem.That is much jealous person is likely to suffer from self-doubt and is responding literally everything.And because the self-esteem of each person is subject to change, no one is immune from the destructive feelings.
Why do some people change, and not others?
In recent years, psychologists have started talking about other interesting facts that explain not only the nature of jealousy, but the mechanism of its effect on the man, his family and the fate of the whole.Scientists have found the cause of genes that not all capable of treachery.Not faithfulness, men begin to doubt the loyalty of its women (such a mechanism is called projection in psychology).A woman intuitively understands that it is a choice.And jealous, if he feels in him the ability to frequently altered.
dubious facts: psychology of jealousy is not so simple!You can explain the behavior of the jealous and features of education, the nature of family relationships.
refreshing break or a relationship?
What researchers still disagree, so it is in the mechanism.So destroy the relationship can only be jealous.The psychology of this phenomenon is as follows.Showing confidence in your loved one, we sow in his mind the thought of the opportunity to change, "just jealous, it means I am capable (able) to change, why not? .." Not to mention how insulting such accusations.
Although at jokes and reasonable jealousy may refresh the relationship, make them former passion.Behavioral manifestations (cries, scandals, accusations, distrust expression) are not proof of love, but say a clear indifferent.You should not, however, add fuel to the fire: do not mess with this "Othello."
As emerging destructive feeling?
complex emotions collectively generate jealousy.Psychology "calls" among them are: anger, confusion, fear of losing a loved one and selfishness.Not always emotions manifested precisely in this population.Some of them can dominate.And to solve the problem in each pair can only be understood as the complex emotions and reactions manifested experienced.What exactly causes these reactions in man, which is a lever.
For example, fear of being alone can capture the mind, if people really depend on romantic relationships, if he sees in them the meaning of life.In this case, any psychologist advises to live their lives and expand their interests, did not dwell on a loved one.For harmonious relations is crucial not to lose yourself.
If the reason is the low self-esteem - in your power to make it dependent on other factors, more appropriate, from success at work, from the respect of colleagues from the creative achievements and more.
Different manifests jealousy.Psychologists can suggest the way, and the path will have to go by.Learn to discuss what is happening with you and find a way out.
most common lever
In any relationship, sooner or later there comes a time when we perceive the other half as a matter of course.This is often accompanied by a sense of ownership, "do not touch - it's mine!" The main mistake lovers - let it capture the sense of self.We start banning loved many things.At first, some little thing, and then rudely already plainly, what and how to do.No wonder why their behavior we get the reaction of rebellion, which is expressed not only in the physical changes but also psychological: a loved one leaves us, runs away from the negative and his soul relationships.
Do not think that this will never happen to you, it is better insure themselves.It does not get completely away from the relationship jealousy.The psychology of this phenomenon suggest how to respond appropriately.Universal council does not exist, but the main principle is to give love, learn to trust and forgive.Keep their relationship, but not by means of control, domination and jealousy!
