Everyone needs to communicate from birth.Communication between people can be divided into three important aspects: perception, communication and interaction.Interesting is the fact that if you meet any perception of communication in "pure form", that is, apart from all the other components of the communication, then select fellowship as the interaction of a separate line is almost impossible.
The very name of this process is already carries the value of the commission of any act: "He pushed me to do anything," "It puts pressure on me, but I do not give it" or "It adapts to me."
Communication as interaction requires active participation in the discussion of the two interlocutors.And if communicative communication is limited only by the communication of information and perception - just auscultation other people's opinions, you have any reaction of the interlocutor puts the process of communication in a different category.
Some people have difficulty communicating.The reasons are very different.Autism, the inability to express their thoughts, shyness and reticence lead to the fact that a person is closed within itself, it is able only to perceive, but apparently does not react to the information.
Gradually, people who just like the air needed response interlocutor, a man beginning to bypass the party.And in vain!Very often in the silent and detached exterior hides a gentle sympathetic heart, and inside is constantly conducted a deep spiritual work.And if someone will be able to "talk" to win this nature, to transform an ordinary perception of the fellowship as the interaction, he is extremely lucky.Best adviser and friend, perhaps, not be found in the whole world.
individuals are more likely to occur, especially among women, who themselves create problems of communication to his interlocutors that they prefer only kommukativnuyu side in the conversation.Such people, they are like wood grouse on tokovische.Laying nobody necessary information, absolutely not thinking about wondering whether it is someone other than them, they impose their form of communication, it is absolutely not interested in the opinion of the interlocutor.Such a "one gate game" - that's not communication as interaction!
What you need to know a person aspiring to be a good company set a goal to prove anything or using a call to change the opinion of his "counterpart"?
Despite the fact that all of us think that something really was happening, and to talk something to teach us not worth it, still there are certain rules of conversation.It is basically keeping the conversation - is a science!
first condition to happen between the two of dialogue as it is the interaction, to the same and efficient - this is the correct distribution of positions interlocutors.That is, in each situation one is the master and the other - driven.During the conversation should observe the "chain of command".
leading position also has its division into "supervisor" and "ponimatelya."In the first case, the communication is based on the desire to control the situation and the desire to dominate.Such communication is not always a pleasure slave, so basically people try as little as possible to communicate with people - "supervisors."
In the second case, the position may be considered as leading to the concept of equality based interlocutors.It plays an important role leading the desire to do without conflict, to understand your partner and reach a mutual agreement and satisfactory outcome of the negotiations.It is with such people very pleasant to communicate, appreciate their surrounding even regardless of whether the results are truly real.After contact with the people of this warehouse in the soul leaves a pleasant feeling that the other person delving into the problem and tried to help.
Hence the postulate: if you want people to talk and would like to contact with you, try to understand them, stand on the position of equality, even if to you or make a request for advice.
