«I love."Significant phrase.It is much easier to say "I am a fool!" Than to admit someone to love.In the first case there is a statement of fact his folly in the second - the responsibilities imposed on itself and on the partner.Each invests in a concept of "love" their only he knows the meaning.But the essence is the same.Absolutely everyone loves.But love in different ways.The man-woman relationship, in most cases, there is one and the same.Crazy passion for its second half, consisting in idealizing thereof.Man-loving, he does not see anything but the object of his adoration.But, alas, it is not love.It's such a widespread thing as falling in love.All experienced that moment.The moment when, it seems that in the world there is absolutely nothing, except her (it).And all life is subject to only one person.Falling in love - this is the projection of the image of the ideal partner.At this point comes the idealization of feelings, emotions and actions.Everything seems logical and beautiful.And why bring endless pleasure.There is such a thing as a "gift."So.At the stage of love, both partners act as host gift.And considering the fact that in terms of banal ethics, admire each other.But, unfortunately, short-lived phase of love.It lasts from a couple of days to a couple of years.Nastaёt's time, the participants of the game, titled "Love", to remove the masks.The fact is that during the period of love, both partners try to show their best side.It is a response of idealization of another.You can draw an analogy with animals - during the mating season, many of them are starting to show their best qualities (eg, males fluff his beautiful peacock tail female to show what they are beautiful).The same is true in humans.Love or ends, or develops into love.Unfortunately, the realization of this transition takes place at all different.The realization that period incessant happiness and ecstasy with each other ended.Knowing that before you is not the same person he was before.Falling in love ends when one partner (or both) decides to show his true self, the trust of others.Or, in order to verify the truth of the senses, or to break the relationship.At this stage, the conflicts begin.And as clear in their understanding of the standard, and intrapersonal (why I do this? Do I love him (her), really).Most conflicts are in the nature of childishness.In each of us deeply ingrained "hurt child" who only knows that insists: "I do not want!I can not!Will not!We must!Will not give it back!My! ".It is very difficult to overcome in themselves the children's impulses, trying to establish normal relations.Entertaining fact, when a man and a woman, even as children themselves, give birth to this child, to overcome their "children" motives becoming "adults."
No need to perceive the conflict as something normal.It's just an excuse.Just a tool for identifying the true causes.In any conflict need to be able to distinguish the fine line, and do not blame your opponent and try to understand yourself.Understand that pushed you to this conflict.Simply understand themselves.Love - this is not the acceptance of gifts and donations.Giving yourself to another person.Love - is work.First of all on himself.Now, the concept of love popularized.From the radio, the TV, from the street, from the social network before we can hear: "I love, love, love».Time erases the essence of concepts.The only thing that remains unchanged - saying "I love you" need to be sure of his feelings to himself, because from that moment uttered the phrase, TWO phase begins.Lying about love - worse than not to love.Loving person say "I do not like", after he trusted and believed in love, the worst stab in the back.It is much harder.
Many believe stronghold of love - family and marriage.In my opinion, it is also absurd as considered a stronghold of faith in God - the Church.Love is the true faith, should come from the soul.From the heart.It is not possible to combine sex marriage, domestic harmony and love.Prejudices monogamy being felt.Most couples enter into alliance at the stage of love.And statistics show that many people can not overcome the stage of transition in love with love.Awareness usefulness to each other, the awareness of love and thirst for man, awareness of the fact that it is the person with whom you can (and should) live all his life - one of the few incentives for marriage.And not falling in love.
question of love difficult to discuss because everyone experiences it differently.I'm not trying to someone to convince opinion.But if my article will make you think and even what it will - I will be very happy.To be continued ...
