Raising a child - a deep creative process.It is creative, no matter how many books on the "technique" of education read, and what are its goals conscious parents.Because the conscious goal - just the tip of the iceberg.The result always shows what they were doing all this time really ...
All that we can - to share our experience.Learned that know and can do.But what we know and can do? ..
We know his view of the world and know how to navigate it.It has its own stars, to aim for.There are dangers from which we must defend.There are expectations, fears and rules.We follow them, even when we do not notice it.And teach them to follow their children.Because this is our reality.
How does a parent sets goals of the educational process?Where did he get them?
From my experience, which are regarded as positive or negative.If there is something that he has received, it has helped him in his life, proved to be effective - it is a "good" experience.And it needs to give a child.From what has had a negative impact on the future life, you need to protect the child.
And in any case - their own picture of the world.If a person is happy with the way it works - it is in a child brings a copy of itself.If disappointed by it (= a and / or the world), he tries to make adjustments: give what he lacked, and protect what prevented.And also educates himself only a new, improved version.He raises himself, what could be.If he had the necessary resources ...
- «To the son worked in a factory, I - let taught languages".
- «To the daughter never needed, as I have - let marries for the calculation."
- «For all his life he was not sorry about what had buried his talent - and let him go to the sport."
Where did these settings?
From my own regrets and fear that the child will feel the same way, suffering from the same.Because of the desire to fill the gaps in his own picture world.There is something with which communicates happiness, success, prosperity.And that something has to be a child.
Can not project onto their children's attitude to life?Could this not to our parents?
No, they could not.They shared what they had at the time.And it's the only thing they could do for us and for himself.They shared this consciously and unconsciously - as much as themselves knew and could.Something of this has helped us, something proved inapplicable, something has become our "negative experience" and our psychological problem (or problems).
This creative process never ends.Growing up, we continue to do started their parents - in their own lives and in the minds of their children.We continue to make adjustments, and erase unnecessary dorisovyvat something new - is based on personal experience.It is never good and bad, but sometimes conscious and unconscious.
And so everything that makes a man with his life now, he does not only for themselves.But for the children who have learned to do the same.Even if their is no ...
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