In these complex categories that relate to human nature, character, life circumstances, it is difficult to perform expert and a herald of truth.Moreover, the loyalty to each perceives differently.For some it is paramount devotion to family, and for her sake he is capable of anything.For another - true to himself and his beliefs.For the third - the service oath (whether marital, religious or state) ... So if you take in general, betrayal - it (in the usual interpretation) betrayal of anything or anyone.But how to be with multidimensional and multifactorial human behavior and beliefs?
's hard not to fall into relativism.If we assume that cheating - this preference or interests of other people, but not the one who has promised fidelity, can we unambiguously condemn her?Most often, we are faced with these issues in family relations.More than half of marriages and unions have faced and will be faced with such dilemmas.The society accepted that change - it is a sin.On the subject of whether it is possible to forgive if you want to glue together the broken, written thousands of pages.But more often forgotten in the heat of emotion thing.Treason - is a particular manifestation of the fact that the union all unfavorable.Judge for yourself.Most marriages are in a fairly young age, when the couple has not had time to get to know each other.They grow, they realize their life programs, installation, ideals.And gradually it begins to become increasingly clear that, instead of being happy together, they mistreat each other morally, and sometimes physically.After all, even the fact that there is a need to hide some part of its existence - is an alarming signal.This is a sign that not all needs are met in the union.That there is no trust and openness.Betrayal - it is always a pain, frustration, breach of trust.But when I hear about what sneaky "he" or insidious "it" - betrayed, cheated, let down - I have often raises the question: Is the other half was so blind not to see that all is not well?After all, the third one can not appear where the two men well, where they make harmony.Someone else, the very possibility that occurs only when there is a crack.Most often it is a "third party" in no way to blame: it merely proved a catalyst for the collapse, which is already brewing.So let's not lie to ourselves.Treason - is not out of the blue.Rather, it is the last lightning strike during a thunderstorm.People tend to blame others for their misfortunes.But look at the situation soberly: are we entitled to expect that someone should subordinate their desires, aspirations, interests us?And why do we need a forced allegiance?
Let me not agree to one.But I am deeply convinced that the infidelity - is exaggerated evil.We tend to associate, to feel that they belong.And that is why the one who breaks these unwritten laws who want to be themselves, stigmatized.Much easier conformism."I love the other, but his wife will not go, because ... (children, the apartment is a pity she has no money, or, on the contrary, I will not)."But let's think about what a wife?How hard it must be to know that the one who should be encouragement and support, providing it (if at all capable of it) only under the pressure of the conventions?What is not sincere, that is not of the heart function.
It is believed that the spiritual betrayal - it's the equivalent of a platonic sex.It is the feelings experienced in relation to someone to whom we do not have to feed them, because they are linked, we can not, we have no right.Stop!After all, the real problem is not the feelings.Man is born free, and any conventions - no more than an attempt to limit its society, to control.Therefore, I am convinced that the infidelity - it's not on the side of love.It is not a sexual act or platonic admiration for someone from the outside.In my opinion, a much more serious sins in this - lies and abuse of trust.That is bad for everyone, the whole triangle is not the fact of its existence, and the fact that someone is a long time in the dark about the true state of affairs.Treason can understand and forgive.Moreover, it can be a lesson for the future, which will show what was missing in the Union.But deliberate misrepresentation, deception is much more difficult to forgive.True love does not tolerate violence and restrictions.And it lies at the root of poisons.
