How often in life we have to deal with stereotypes?Yes, almost every day, every hour.They are in our thoughts, in our knowledge, in the manner of behavior and attitudes - as the others, and ourselves.What can we learn from childhood?Right to play a role.We are told: "a real man does not cry," "a true woman should take care of themselves, the house of her husband, the children" ... and we find ourselves at a very early age in the grip of foreign representations.
Remember how often simply can not after a day of making the necessary chores, and even do things close.As you do not want to get up early in the morning, while still asleep, and prepare breakfast for the whole family, for "real woman" so does ... We aim to take on as much as possible, we want to justify Nekrasov "stop a galloping horse", andat the same time we need to be fragile and vulnerable.After all, how many times have heard - from the mother-in-law, her husband a real woman - a gentle and loving being, homemakers, eternal femininity, and so on and so forth ... And we begin to suffocate in other people's views.After all, the presence of opposite demands - "be strong" and "whether the weak", "learn to stand up myself" and to "put on her husband" - split consciousness.It is, at best, seriously threatens our neurosis.In the worst - it brings to split families up to female alcoholism to pathological relationships.Let's look at the situation of women in contemporary society objectively.At least try.
If even 100-150 years ago, the main thing was the education of children and maintenance of the house, now the responsibilities that society imposes on women, not decreased.Quite the contrary.It is now expected of her, and yet what a "real woman" should be well-groomed, educated, professionally trained, independent.And what about the family?How often have there been conflict settings?Continuously ... Take, for example, a situation where a family of parents valued education and career."A real woman" should choose a calling, to get a diploma, to pursue science.And her husband's family, on the contrary, the mother in law used to a different way of life.For her "real woman" - is the one who is the son, provides all their needs, while forgetting about yourself.What happens to the psyche, if a person gets into a situation of such cognitive dissonance?She fails.And a woman can not understand what is really expected of her relatives.And how hostile and condemning environment can be - at work in the yard, in kindergarten, where we drive the children ... If we are afraid of their own complexes and problems, the easiest way - to find them and to condemn others."What kind of a mother", "you look as she dressed up", "it would just sit at home," or "it is only the work and thinking" - as we often hear such gossip ...
We absorb other people's stereotypes unwittingly,subconsciously.But if we are only able to look at yourself, know your soul - we realize how connected our thinking as we are not free of the blinders on the eyes.And if we still have a strong love of life, the pursuit of self-realization, we will be able to remove them.And I realized that in actual fact a real woman - is the one that knows how to be happy and free.And it should not be anything to anyone.She came into this world to live his - unique - life.And do not be a "perfect couple," "best mother", "obedient daughter" .... Just realizing this, we can learn to accept yourself - and hence the other - just as we or they are.
