Song "to be good" is becoming more popular.And if it becomes popular the idea - change for the better?Yes, people want to become better, but, unfortunately, many are looking for is not kindness.Maybe the whole thing in a vague understanding of the word "kindness"?Why it was not prestigious to be kinder?
The significance suffix
People confuse two concepts: good and Dobrenky.On the first talk later, and now - to the second.The pejorative suffix indicates that goodness is not real.Pious, too, come in several forms.Firstly, weak spineless people who simply can not refuse or punish (have you seen such school teachers).Secondly, it is lazy people who can not chastise a slave, because they do not care, it is easier to smile and did not hammer head.Third, it is hypocritical evil individuals who pretend to be good for profit.The last category - the most unpleasant and dangerous.
Kindness strong
be good does not mean being weak.Only a strong man can afford sympathy, warmth and tenderness.But these manifestations make a person good.And when we are talking about a strong man, you know what kindness was not on greed and not from lack of character.Be kind - so be prepared to give without expectation of reciprocity.The really good people respect and love.Remember the image of Melanie from "Gone With the Wind."For inconspicuous appearance and tenderness stood unwaveringly strong personality, it was especially noticeable when it comes to moral values.
Start with yourself
Bible demands to love others as we love ourselves.Start with the fact that love yourself.This does not mean that you can "switch off" the self-control and to lower the bar for yourself.This means that you have to share emotional and intellectual "I".Many people say they want to be "kicked" to the result.In fact, they just want feedback.Many people agree to unkind attitude to yourself because otherwise difficult to get attention.And evil attitude causes injury most thick-skinned.Imagine that you have a best friend who makes mistakes.So, the best friend - you.Regardless of the circumstances and errors, you need a warm and emotionally support.Be good about yourself is difficult, but from that to start the path to goodness.
If faith does not scare
You may need the support of people who also want to be good.In this situation, refer to the faithful of the denomination to which he belongs.In any traditional religion, charity and kindness in the price, get the sincere believers among his friends - and learn.Typically, the believer comes from kindness to his care and understanding of what is happening in the soul.It should learn, perhaps, read the fundamental works of the Holy Fathers, such as "Philokalia" or "Ladder".
Even if you do not feel a natural talent to kindness, to be kinder can learn.Just try to look for the good in themselves and others - and enjoy it.What begins in our minds, certainly continues in reality.And it is not "secret", but the truth mentioned in the Bible.Good people do live happier.
