all remember times when I wanted to walk a little longer, and my mother called home from the street.So would likely grow!And now the dream has come true.But now we are not sure exactly like this.Now we want to stop the train and get off at the station somewhere near the 30th kilometer.But no, the train should go ahead.And, in contrast to suburban trains, it should be strictly according to schedule.
Psychologists do not get tired to say that modern people increasingly do not want to grow up, try as late as possible to get married, have children, take responsibility.So much so that not only the adults do not want to be great, but even the children do not want to grow up.But can we blame?We are taught to walk and talk, and then forced to sit and be silent.We stop to feed many illusions as if we do not carefully prepared parents in real life.
I'm not the most beautiful, and most intelligent, and all will be well, and tablets may not have time to eternity, and the prince is already married.
We were warned that to be adults - is responsible.But not that much!The most difficult thing - it is a choice.As you this: do caesarean or suffer to the bitter end.Save the family, not noticing the betrayal, or go back to their parents.Sign permission for the operation dad, knowing the risks, which he does not know himself.
When we wanted to grow big, somehow did not think about such things.I wish winter icicles and ice cream dress of their choice, "spoil the eye" in front of TV, hobnob with whom you want and do not weed out the country.And what turned out?
can "score" to study and work, to go where you want to drink alcohol, smoke, do not wash their hands before eating, nail biting, lying to read, slurp at the table, not to do "homework" to sleep until lunch (while not calledfrom the personnel department), do not wear a hat in cold weather, cutting bangs herself has plenty of candy ...
But what you do not want.
We are only too well aware of what would happen if ... Have perestrigatsya in the cabin, there is the risk of becoming a thick, cold, losing a job ... But the magician in the blue helicopter resets unlimited credit card and a rich husband.And without money it is difficult to lead a fulfilling adult life with all its alluring pleasures of childhood.
life experience, which includes loss and disappointment, that's what makes us adults, cynical wise guy.And this gialuronka not get rid of.
I do not play
As a child, it seemed that adults know best, never wrong and alien to them problems with their peers.Certainly not.We were 30, and we still do not understand, "these boys", but now, to complain and to cope with the hurt, we go to a therapist, so as not to disappoint my mother.Moreover, there are problems in the relationship with the younger, middle and older - not only by age but also by rank.
This is the most interesting games - adult games together in the family and at work.Dr. Eric Berne counted 120 pieces of these games: "Poor me, poor," "Look, I tried to," "All because of you" .... You certainly heard of his theory of "transactions-transactions" between people.If not, my advice - read, it is useful - in the book "Games People Play", there are rules and kontrpravila when play got sick - because sometimes I just want to be myself, to tell the world: "I do notI play. "But for adults, it is a luxury.
have to play - in a monopoly in the war games, carnival masks: bunny, kitty, fish, lion, dog tired, downtrodden horse, squirrel in a cage, the shark business.In "edible-inedible" - on a diet in the "catch-up" - with former classmates in the "doll" - with his daughter, in the "hide and seek" - the first day of your new job.In what may become, we need to reach the final of his career.And preferably maintained at every stage, so that, God forbid, not thrown back.
everything was just in the sandbox.We have been taught: "Let's surrender."It was enough to slam the shovel boy who threw sand.And now?Try it - let boorish putting behind the counter, the director at work or boss housing department, from which you want to print.Take away the police fired, denied.Therefore, we are playing the words, agree with the criticism, giving a box of chocolates.
As a child we spent much fewer words to combat the enemy.And now?
colleague snitched?Obzovu it "Sneak-koryabeda."Critics?You answered "myself like that! Someone call names - he himself is called!"But even if you show your language, it is unlikely your office enemy cry and run away.They, too - no longer children, and mothers Office fighters.Nobody will regret when the carpet with his superiors you declare magic: "All I have in the house."
"The first word is more expensive than the second" is unlikely to work in the bank, which is in the second year changed the terms of the mortgage.
Baby spells stopped working.
"Agree, Agree, Agree and never fight me."How do you want here, so just take a girlfriend after an argument over the little finger.Instead, you need to take the phone and speak compound sentences.Because we know - almost all my friends that now with us - "from the early"."Late" tend screened, bored, outdated, disappear.Almost never such a pity priyatelstvovaniya.And only school friends do not choose - as a family.Sometimes you wonder: how could do to make friends with this unbearable selfish, which is still called by the name of truth and cuts in the face.But we call first and put up.
When do we become adults?
Most respondents begin to feel the adults after the first sexual experience, childbearing after marriage, the first earned money ... As a friend of mine admitted - after the first bribes, which had to give a teacher.Some remember this with pride, others with sadness.Some became adults after his parents' divorce, after the departure of someone from relatives.Each one of us - has its own history.It would be desirable from a difficult childhood rather escape into adulthood.Thriving and greenhouse, it lasts longer, but does not guarantee a happy life.
Psychologists believe that a grown man - one who:
- provide themselves and their families,
- can say "no",
- responsible for their actions,
- preserves dignity in any situation,
-accept failures,
- alone makes the choice ...
Few of us tested for adulthood.So there is room to grow.
main thing is not to forget about a child, to arrange his holidays: cuddle, soothe, pat on the head.No wonder they say he praises - no praise.For adults it is that, the older we get, the less those pats us on the head.How sadly remarked Eugene Grishkovec, we are experiencing care of grandmothers, because they - our protective layer in front of eternity, and without their parents, we find ourselves in front of this eternity face to face.So sometimes useful instead to keep yourself in their hands, just take yourself to handle.
Aunt Motya-
As a child we longed to be like adults aunts.Today, when we look at a photo of their own mums and aunties only marvel Given: surely they were then - our peers?Yes, with a "chemistry" on the head and a straight face they can provide all the modern 45. Today, thirty many like myself a lot more than eighteen.Democracy - in the choice of obezhdy, hairstyles, fashion for a healthy lifestyle allow to remain "girls" for much longer.
good news.We have more resources.We aspire to the fitness and exercise equipment to avoid becoming too large.Although, of course, be a "girls" - is not just a matter of appearance and image as a whole.Easy attitude to life, smile, and most importantly - healthy curiosity.
Bonus
You transcend not pass the exam.But you immediately file a tax return.
Marina Ermolenko
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