Perhaps every once wondered: what a person needs to be happy?A lot of money, a successful career, a great study ... and even a family, children, a big house and a dog.Or healthy, sober husband, a faithful wife?Or maybe a little of everything?Or just a lot?And then it turns out that a single formula of happiness does not exist.Each sees in it something of their own, sore, what it lacks in this period of life.
Happiness is not about money?
jokes about the fact that happiness in money or in them, came up a lot.Of course, life is easier with money, but you happier?How many examples of countries fun of rich people, their craving for adrenaline, danger, prohibited.And all of the feeling of satiety when earned (or inherited inherited) enough money to any whim.Strive to have nowhere to seek nothing - boring.On the other hand, the situation "paycheck to paycheck" a cloudless existence does not pull.So how much money you need for happiness?Perhaps, yet not at all, to be more precise, the feeling of happiness with money if linked, indirectly.And films on the subject filmed a lot, and books have been written, and real life examples constantly throws.It was then involuntarily comes to mind and saying about heaven and a tent.
happiness - love, family, children?
Perhaps this postulate is most common among men.And it's not even surprising, as the need for procreation, belonging to someone (read: family) are fundamental.Well female nature requires that had a spouse and children.So, their presence in your life should already make people happy?An, no, it is not so simple.About infidelity, domestic violence, quarrels, scandals, disappointments, crises of family life and can not speak.But there are also loners by nature, though on their statistics and no more than three percent.And there are those who deliberately do not want to have children - childfree.But needless to say, that they - are unhappy?Of course not!Rather, the presence of vapors and / or children will be perceived as a threat to a cloudless existence.It turns out, and there is no single recipe of happiness is not found.
main thing - health?
So maybe what we need to be happy - it's a great feeling?After all, say the same: It would be great everything else.But how then to be with people with disabilities?Among them are successful professionals, happy mothers, fathers, loved his wife.But older people who have lost their health, a priori pass into the category of accidents?But it is not so!There are those who in old age and feel happy and die with a smile on his lips.
Happiness - is?
As it turns out, each of the "components" cloudless life necessarily have anything to do "but".In this case, you need to be happy?Or maybe it does not exist at all?Rather, happiness is harmony.Between our desires, abilities, emotions.The moment comes when this harmony, man and feels happy.But as soon as the balance is lost, it is lost, and a sense of happiness.It is in our head, invented, and sometimes contrived complexes, desires, dreams.Feel the happiness we interfere with our fears, anxieties, giperotvetstvennost, the desire to have time to everywhere.Often it prevents self-perceived sense of guilt when a person puts himself "blocks.""I am guilty, do I have the right to be happy then?No! "- Subconsciously (and sometimes consciously) we deduce, and not allow ourselves to smile, to love, to be loved, happy.A kind of voluntary masochism.
So the first thing you need to be happy - stop doing samoedstvom.Whatever pathetic and trite as it may sound, but the happiness is really in ourselves.If a person likes to feel miserable - it will be like this, no matter what may be said and done around, no matter what happens in his life.But nothing can stop him and in reverse.
Secondly, you need to put yourself realistic goals.For example, if you convince yourself that need to be happy cup of coffee in the morning, most likely, really will feel the inner harmony, sipping refreshing drink for breakfast.But to be sure that what is needed for happiness - it is to be born into a family of wealthy parents, or, for example, to get the moon - then feel unhappy people will have awareness of the impossible dream.And it is not that the desire should be more down to earth.Rather, a more adequate and achievable.
Ultimately, people really is the blacksmith of his personal fortune.It is, and this fact is not in doubt.However, what is necessary for happiness, everyone defines himself.The main thing in pursuit of him not to forget that happiness should not be the ultimate goal (ie, what we seek), and the process (what happens to us).
