term "Open relationship" burst into our lives with the winds of the sexual revolution of the West.The idea of free love (not to be confused with civil marriage) was so tempting in comparison with the traditional marriage that has not gone unnoticed.What is so attractive loose morals?
To begin with the pros:
1. Lack of commitment.In this age of increasingly infantile men who are 30 years old live with their parents and can not be determined with a professional paths, it is one of digestible variants relations.
stronger sex disastrously forgotten how to take responsibility for anything.And the opportunity to have a sex partner without tedious findings-family position is very attractive.Moreover, many women are satisfied with this state of affairs, because they have more time for yourself, friends and career.There is no need to wait for someone to work with, feed, Iron-on transfer shirt.
2. Absence of jealousy, resentment and claims.If the couple originally agreed to a life without prospects, there is no reason to hope for something and, especially, for something to cut each other.Nobody owed nothing to anybody.
3. A variety of sexual life.New partners are bringing a new sensation.You can not hesitate to exercise their imagination, without fear of being misunderstood.
4. Communication with other people, as well as hobbies, interests, work and fun can not be criticized and, consequently, be banned.You do not have to sacrifice a part of his personality to please your partner.
5. Many of treason committed by virtue of the desire to break the taboos, and just now they do not, and she need to go to the left may fall by itself.6. There is always a chance that an open relationship grow into a strong partnership, and perhaps even in a good marriage.
It was all so wonderful, everyone would unanimously took the side of freedom.But now for the cons:
1. Like it or not, women - being emotional and attached to her, even temporarily, to the partner much faster than men.And because with time the status of "free" want to change to "legitimate" and less visible around the favorite of different females.That is an open relationship remain free until until it is time to think seriously about the family.Or until someone meets his true soul mate.
2. It is difficult to rely on their partner.There is no assurance that in case of emergency, it really will come to your aid.You're not bound by anything.
3. Not suitable for those who want to start a family.Imagine that you are pregnant, how goes your partner?Having a child is capable at times aggravate the situation with irresponsible behavior by men.What did you first think when he lost at a party with friends?That - and then it is that the idea of a new lover first comes to your mind.
4. Such relations will sooner or later come to an end.And they both know it.
5. Such relationships have no legal guarantees, in the case of legal marriage, and may harm the image in some cases.
6. There is no need to work on themselves, creating a strong alliance.After all, love and intimacy priori presuppose mutual obligations.This requires constant work on the relationship.The ability to find a compromise, to meet and to be a reliable support and support each other well worth it.
With all its pros and cons, in an open relationship - it is rather a tribute to fashion, a consequence of emancipation and the fruits of technological progress.Inability to build strong relationships, fear of unrealistic expectations and permissiveness generate substitution of notions.I like and meet with someone, and no family.Therefore, work on yourself, raduyte those who are near, improve their alliance, and follow the dictates of the heart.See, as usual, on TV Friday!broadcast reality show "American bride."Till!
