And you probably have repeatedly appealed familiar young women with a question: whether to accept good nanny for your child?And I want to help, but - how?Except advised to apply to the Agency and the head did not come.Or are there other options?Let's discuss this.
just business, nothing personal
Let us remember that the agencies - this is a business.For them, the main thing - profit.Therefore, charge for their services at exorbitant prices.Besides, where is the guarantee that the agency will choose a nanny who will not disappoint you?Did they treat each contender under a magnifying glass, checking her biography to the smallest details?They do not need it.For them, the main thing that the nurse produced a decent impression and that its documents were in order.All the rest - a mystery, because the soul of a pretender nobody will get.
I'm not saying that the agency is working unscrupulous people, not at all!And examples of good recruitment can be found, probably a lot.Yet the main purpose of agencies, as well as any business - is the flow of money.The rest - in second place.Powered babysitting, profitable, and thank God.If customers do not complain, even working.That's when perhaps the agency will understand ...
therefore should not be considered a panacea for the agency and think that it will solve everything for you and give you iron guarantee.Your observation, intelligence and intuition, no one has yet been canceled.
So, what to look for when choosing a babysitter?What challenges await you?What to consider?
Young, single, sexy
Even if a young unmarried girl makes a good impression, remember that the first place she still is not your child, and its own interests.Before her now are other vital tasks, and it is their aim to solve.She wants to strengthen its financial position, get an education, get married, start a family, have children.And this is always thinking.
psychologist Catherine Burmistrov said: "When a child is very young (he was not even three years old), the important point, is there a future babysitting children or not.The child of this age can not take a woman childless.Experience shows that nulliparous women do not feel the child up to three years and feel they can not.No education, no amount of teaching experience here will not be saved.If the nurse change frequently (eg, every 3 months), because you select them by trial and error, you do not like anybody, can not fit in the characters, the child can turn into a neurotic.Children do not respond well to the emergence of new and complete disappearance of adults - because each need to build their relationship.And if he had just used, and the nurse was gone, and so more than once, the child may forget how to believe in people, psychologically close ".
but not least, that of a nanny come sexual fluids - simply because of its age and the peak of sexuality.From it comes "smell" a young female.And it's dangerous for your family.The presence in the house of another young woman who is spinning before my eyes, a potential threat, to provoke change.It is known that the novelty excites men.
There are many cases where between the host and the nurse tied a novel or a sexual relationship (at least remember the sensational example with Schwarzenegger).Such a connection may have far-reaching consequences.Do you need it?
So, invite to the house the young unmarried girl risky.The host for it is the epitome of stability and prosperity.For her, this tidbit, a man who can solve all her problems.After receiving it, it immediately will become her husband, living space, material security and so on. Even if it does not set itself the goal of it is present in her unconscious.
Now think: whether to build a house in his rivalry? ..
It is best to look for a nanny, whose childbearing age has ended.She had already decided most of their problems, carried out its vital program.Now she can safely babysit children.Such a nurse - the most reliable option.
Nanny - non-native people
Nanny guest worker can be very good, kind woman.But let us remember that she grew up and was raised in a different environment and traditions, so it has a different mentality (which, incidentally, did not immediately disclosed).You may not like it babysitting her to speak.She may be other concepts of hygiene, behavior and so on. As a result, the child will begin to unconsciously absorb other than your, life values.
Besides nurse's relatives are far away.At any time it can break away and leave.Where did you find it later if something happens?Therefore, from a nanny is better to abstain.
Bad habits
At the interview Examine them carefully to the pretender to understand, it does not suffer any harmful habits, such as addiction to alcohol or something worse.These things, too, did not immediately disclosed.Before you can sit lovely woman with a kind smile and talk about high moral principles.But you'll be amazed when you find out that it is, for example, is applied to the bottle or dishonest.Even stars such stories happened with nurses, and yet they sent them from the elite agencies.
Be attentive to any detail, remember that you trust the unknown woman the most precious thing - your child!
director of the agency "Family Service" Marina Panova gives useful advice: "Pay the medical examination and analysis of the nurse.Confidence in her health is worth it. "
who searches finds
And now the story of the life
One young family decided to find a nanny to his three year old child.Husband and wife both worked, there was no one to help them, so no babysitter was not enough.One friend suggested to them a good yield.She suggested they go to a kindergarten nearby and ask whether there are educators, retired, who are not averse to earn.
Young father's advice, walked next kindergartens and found a wonderful woman who for many years worked with children, knew the job and loved it.As a result, she worked in the family for several years.The child was very fond of her.Yes, and adult family members, too, have become attached to it.In the summer, she even took the child to his dacha.In short, the family began to close, dear person.
you too may be lucky!
Listen to your intuition
inviting future nanny for an interview, include intuition at full capacity.Getting acquainted with the new man, we can never know all the information about it.The documents, information, recommendations - it is certainly good.But behind them can hide the facts about which we will never know.But we can guess about it, feel it.In case of doubt refuse the candidate.Agree only when the internal voice will tell you with confidence: "Yes!This is exactly the kind of person we need. "
psychologist Tatiana Rebrov recommends:
- In an interview with a potential nanny you can ask her, for example, what it will do if the child is at home or on the street much hurt, hit.How will she get out of difficult situations the standard (for example, the baby does not like to dress up, brush your teeth, eat and so on. D.)?What it will do with the child?What would she do if a child has a fever?As the nurse thinks it is possible to punish the child, and for what?Would it work if the apartment is installed surveillance camera?
Then arrange an appointment with your child's nanny.Observe how he behaves with her, and after she left, how speaks about it.After all, the child's views about the nurse - the most important thing.Caprices or unwillingness to see more of a nanny mean much more than the assumption that the first time it is difficult to find a common language with the child, that maybe he is not feeling, and so on. D.
But if the child is warmly of the nurse askswhen she comes again, perhaps, it is the person who you want. "
Inna Kriksunova
PS Maybe you have other methods of selection of baby-sitting?
Articles Source: fontanka.ru
