vicious circle of the problem is that the children of disobedience starts to annoy when you yourself are already angry and frustrated.And in this state, a rare parent is able to adequately assess the situation.So, before you blame a disobedient child - look at this list ...
1. Do not contradict your requirements age features?Young children are not able to be patient and wait for a strong desire in the immediate preschool years successfully replacing seemingly learned the rules and regulations and to 9-11 years, until it has volitional, the child often follows their "want", not your "must".
2. Do you understand the reasons for the child's behavior, needs and desires?Looking at the situation from the child does not necessarily solve the problem.But this is the first step to ensure that an agreement, a compromise.
3. Does the child's condition?Maybe he was tired and hungry?Maybe he's scared (and this should be taken seriously, no matter how trifling may seem childish fears).Maybe disinhibited, so it is not in control of himself and can not hear you?Here I want to recall the words of Ross Green's book "The explosive child", "children behave well, if they can".
4. Do not suppress your requirements of natural mechanisms of development? Consider the child's habit to climb everywhere, all touch, taste, lookinto different subjects, not as your punishment, but as a happy gift, which will allow for a few million years to learn important things.
5. hurt by a child's behavior or the suspicion that he does "evil"? Most of us kept the cargo old grudges. But sometimes it is worth remembering that the sandpit behind us, and we do not have now the name-calling back and hit back, especially if the "offender" - our own baby.
6. Do not fight you to the physiological characteristics of the child, whether your requirements are reasonable? In order to lull the word and the word appetizing, you have to be a hypnotist.
7. Do you not to shift the responsibility on the child for his carelessness, forgetfulness, laziness?
8. Can you do cooperate and negotiate, you can teach this child?Are you doing something to a child you heard?
9. Do not overestimate you an idea of the child about the dangers of his ability to foresee the consequences of their actions?
10. Do not deny you the right of the child to their own desires, interests, motivations?
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