If you have a problem with the behavior in any situation, and you want to change this strategy, you can help this simple technique of NLP.For example, you feel fear and discomfort when speaking to a large audience.
1. Working situation
Identify a situation where you want to have more choices in behavior (eg, fear of speaking in front of large group of people).
2. Intention and secondary benefits.
What are your intentions and secondary gains in this situation?What you do not like the current version of the behavior in this situation?That is, what exactly is the problem and that gives you your discomfort, what benefits do you see in it (the removal of responsibility and a sense of security in the event of failures and the possibility to put the blame on fear, for example, or approval of the hall in case of success).
3. The new behavior.
well.Think (change) behavior, which could have arranged for this (and secondary benefits) in this situation.
b.Imagine how it will look and hear from.Do you like what you see and hear?Did you reach your goal?If not, go back to step 1.
in.Step into the picture and live the situation from within.Triples Do you how it feels inside?If not, step 1.
of environmental audits: Does not hurt you this new version of the behavior?If so (for example, you will ask telefonchik any suspicious types) - step 1.
4. Three options.
Find at least three behaviors that would be more suited to the work situation.
5. Criteria run.
Define criteria (preferably at least three) for the launch of new behaviors.They must be very sensory (feeling in the stomach, intonation interlocutor, etc.).You can
different sets of criteria for the various new behaviors.
6. Integration.
few times mentally Lose working situation, responding to the criteria (point 5) the launch of new behaviors.
7. Verifying.
Mentally (imagine yourself in the various embodiments of the job situation in the future (eg tomorrow, next week, next month) and keep track of whether to launch new behaviors automatically. If not - to step 6.
• It is also possible thatsome secondary benefits are not satisfied (you do not feel complete comfort in the new model of behavior) - then go back to step 3.
the article Alexander Lyubimov.
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