Man - a social being, and therefore, a large part of his life devoted to communication.
communicating, we have an impact on each other, which can be as simple (please), and very difficult (various methods of manipulation).
On how good we possess the art of communication, largely depends on the success in a variety of cases.
To learn how to easily interact with people, you need not only competent construction of phrases and smooth it, though it is also important.The art of communication requires the ability to hear the other party, to understand it and build their speech and behavior according to the situation.
Let us consider the concept of communication.Modern psychology considers three aspects of this process:
- communicative communication - the exchange of information between the interlocutors.
- Perceptual side - perception of interlocutors each other, creating an atmosphere of mutual understanding.
- Interactive side involves the creation of conditions for interaction between people.
communication skills involves learning how to convey their message to the interlocutor, to become clear.It is important to the ability to be accurate.Possible errors are most often associated with psychological difficulties such as isolation, shyness, anxiety.
These obstacles to the free expression of their thoughts are often referred to communication barriers.
But it should be noted that communication skills are not innate.Expand their confidence can anyone if you make this effort.
Currently, there are a lot of psychological trainings and special activities that can help to learn to communicate freely and easily.
Training aimed at developing communication skills, usually involve several steps.This is the ability to convince the interlocutor, the impact of non-verbal skills development and the ability to celebrate the release of any conflict situation.Sometimes I add other steps.
If you can not attend such classes, it will be useful to you some simple guidelines to help overcome communication barriers and succeed in any situation.
We all own childhood basic communication skills, which are incorporated in our consciousness in the form of certain patterns.This greeting, farewell, sympathy, apology, refusal, request, demand, and others.
Usually when we interact with strangers on the most superficial level (eg a shop), these samples (templates) is enough.In usual circumstances, the exhaust to automatism, we have almost no experience communication difficulties.
They begin where there is a new and exciting situation.For example, when applying for a job, or when you need to make a marriage proposal.That was then, and we were waiting for a variety of communication barriers that then we describe the words "take away the language," "I do not know what to say", "I'm just speechless," and others.Later, we understand how the story itself was worth something to say, and bitterly regret his own helpless.To overcome these difficulties and the need to develop communication skills.
Why is this happening and how to deal with this phenomenon?
The most common reason that we can not easily and calmly talk with anyone on any subject, is the so-called shyness.The man is afraid, as if internally "hiding", holding his sincere feelings.
Shy people too concerned about how it looks like that will think about it around.He is always unsure of what kind of impression.The best advice in this situation is to look at ourselves.How?For example, you can record to the camera the way you talk, walk, laughing.And then, look at the results, change what you do not like yourself.Important: if you've never seen myself in the recording, you can experience a shock.It happens to most people, because our inner image of himself is quite at odds with the way we are seen by others.So do not draw conclusions after the first viewing.Explore the post several times, and only then analyze its pros and cons.
following advice: learn to freely express their feelings.If you can not do it with words, start with movement.Dance is suitable for this best.Left alone, turn on soft music and dance the way you want.Let your movements will be odd or even wild, do not hesitate, because no one sees you.With spontaneous dance you better understand yourself, many internal "clips" go away.
also useful to draw feelings.This method is used in psychotherapy and helps remove barriers.
If it is difficult to talk, try writing first.Expression of thoughts on paper will give them the clarity and completeness that gradually manifest itself in speech.
development of communication skills may include other methods.You can choose the one that more you like.
In conclusion, I will add that any internal obstacle is surmountable, you are able to change, though at times the path to success is long and thorny.The main thing - do not give up!
