Family created and operates as an institution is not to search for food, sex, cohabitation, violence of passions and the like, two individuals of different sexes.Ideally, the family needs of humanity as a medium for the full education of children.Everything else - means.And the nature of pain punishes us when we are the goals and the means are confused.
a baby - now his upbringing, and nothing else, has become a target for us as parents.In the case of a direct threat to their lives and health of the child, of course, society needs to be protected from abuse and parents have the right to complain to them.However, to attract the child witnessed a conflict between the parents categorically unacceptable, no matter how many years it was not, and as though it may seem tempting to the injured party.
Ultimately, our goal - to not get the punishment the offender at all costs and get out of the conflict situation with minimal losses.Is it worth it to sacrifice justice for the sake of health, even your own child ?!After all, he is acting as a witness, it would seem, with the best intentions, it turns thus into an instrument of self-destruction.In the mind of the child is the only true statement: "My mother - the best in the world, and my dad - the best in the world."Therefore, the conviction, the evidence against the "best" destroys the psyche of the child in its basic foundations.
The surest way to make your computer "frozen" - give it deliberately unsolvable problems, controversial at the level of system software.If you do not want to get one hundred percent of the adult neurotic and psychosomatic chronic (but now more than a century the most common disease is officially classified as psychosomatics) - does not undermine the fundamental representations with respect to the child's parents.
After the divorce, the child should stay with the parent who behaves most loyal and friendly to his former spouse.It is assumed that in this case the image of the "bad mother" or "poor Pope" will not aggressively implanted in the minds of children.Although, of course, this is only the lesser of two evils, because losing a male or female behaviors in the process of education, the child is already extremely difficult to create a full-fledged family.Destroying the family, we, unfortunately, include a chain reaction of destruction of the family in future generations.
In life anything can happen, but we should be the law: "We - the big, you - a little;we give and give love, you take and take without conviction.Because when you become big, you just pass them all that you can, to your children.And they will not condemn you, because you're going to have "the most good parent in the world," and what we have for you. "
Note - "we" rather than "I".In the mind of the child must be "Papa" and "Mama" together, no matter where they live as well as carriers of its sacred images.The concepts of "mother better dads" and "Daddy better mother" inherently destructive, because "Mom" and "Dad" for children - not two equal personalities, such as for a judge, and two definitely recognized authority on the implementation of male andWomen's role in the world of people.
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