Oh, these girls!The more eager for freedom of choice and individuality, the more influenced by stereotypes.And like a good follow what is approved by the majority, but some time to get rid of stereotypes.Well, or even just to reconsider its attitude towards them.
Stereotype 1. "Marry up to 30 years»
«In 10 years, I thought that getting married in 18 years.At age 18, I decided that I will never get married because they do not want.The closer I got to 30, the more I understand that I will not marry at all ever, because nobody wants to take, I'm too old for the bride. "So many young women say, always worry about your personal life.And it really is, picking up to 30 years, most of the "nezasvatannyh" get nervous and sometimes put on family life cross.And why?Because the thought creeps in that you're like a dragonfly proveselilas these years - instead of having to create a family home.Yes there creeps!Most of her friends had with their husbands and children;grandmother, aunt and other relatives are constantly reminded that "enough to sit on the shelf";TV, newspapers are always talking about the problems of late delivery and so on.
Once you give in to this stereotype, your whole energy is directed to the depression and the search for a potential husband.And in most cases, the choice falls almost to the first comer (and possibly in the marriage swindler).
But it should be before marriage, if you are still not firmly stand on their feet?If in 20 years, do you like more work than family?If you are full of energy and desire to build a career?You should not get married "for show", just because of all the friends already "family".At a young age (especially - without a strong desire to build a family nest) is difficult to take seriously the family life, to the same - often running the show ambition.In later years at your disposal will experience, good work, which certainly plays a role in the family and domestic relations.
It also happens that, being in a long lasting relationship with a man who pulls all the wedding or does not make an offer, the woman begins to worry and nervous.Basically it is a latent fear that the case will not come before the marriage and she will remain alone, unmarried, with a large tail box 20. Often the head start to climb suspicions - why he still does not want to get married?And as a consequence, increase in tensions.Cast away all doubts, if you're well together, then it is necessary officialdom?Love and enjoy your life.If relations are not so good as we would like - that no stamp will not help.
Stereotype 2. "Early marriage»
other side of the coin - early marriage.Teenagers love dizzy, so I want to quickly taste of adulthood that immediately after the school run to the registrar.But more often we are skeptical about early marriages.Young age is associated with frivolity, unrequited, lack of experience, big ambitions, excessive emotionality, etc.In addition, around all told that you need to learn, not to score head family problems that need to "work up", etc.
If you and your boyfriend wants to legalize relations, reaching adulthood, and it is not just a passing whim and desire to try his hand at another social role, then - go for it!While you are young, you have to gain useful experience.Try yourself in family life.You get the invaluable knowledge and skills that will be useful to you in the coming years.
only advice if there are special circumstances, then wait a little bit to the registration, wait just a while together, unmarried, let it be a small test of your feelings and relationships.
Stereotype 3. "Rendezvous, flowers, candy and other»
do not want to talk about the commercialism of girls, it is still not as frequent, see how his men.But note that it is supported by the romantic trappings, for many was the main proof of love.No flowers on holidays, rare gifts, occasional meetings, occasional surprises, etc.As a consequence, a mute reproach others, colorful stories about girlfriends surprises them admirers.In such a situation it is one or the other girl.
Under the influence of others, she has certainly suffered, analyze and come to the conclusion that in a relationship that is not right that we should break them or, or rebuild.This was accompanied by quarrels, scandals, tears.Still, without the other could not young.Only after our heroine ceases to dwell on the lack of romance in a relationship develops almost idyllic.So why torture yourself and each other, adjusting to the common framework?
No flower, no chocolate never express true feelings, tell them your eyes.If your relationships are no gifts and surprises, but you love each other - the value of each other, value and time - no need to spend it on the criticisms in the style of "Masha boyfriend gives flowers every day, and will not wait on you."After all, this is not to say that Mary happier you are in love.
Stereotype 4. "It is better, where we have»
man in life is arranged so that it is always just a little.No wonder that most of us dream to go to live in another city, but rather to another country, get a different job, etc.For some it's just a fleeting dream.For others, it becomes a fixed idea.All the failures they begin to associate with the place and the situation in which there are.
Sometimes it is justified.But we must not forget that the roots of most of our problems - within us.And even traveled the world, we will not be happy without working on oneself.Most often we just do not have enough confidence in themselves and in their abilities, so we have to write off all on "bad government", "corruption", "stagnation in the city" and "pervasive cronyism."Admit to yourself at least once because so was the situation when you did not go to the interview or did not call somewhere for sure that would not happen.
develop confidence in themselves and their own abilities.Write out on a leaf all their positive qualities and opportunities, and on the other - negative sides.With the first leaf look on the bright side, make sure that with such a portrait you can achieve certain goals.And let another leaf will be for you a reminder of what still needs to correct himself.
Put yourself first for the easy targets, achieving them, gradually inflate the bar.And if we begin immediately with complicated, you can not achieve the results that only discourages.Improve the world and their own lives on their own.Because of the failure to draw lessons, analyze, and not dramatize.
Stereotype 5. "Solitude - is bad»
Only a few of us met their soul mate in his youth and never parted.Most still live alternately - in the relationship, then alone.And more often than not are the relations with the opposite sex, the harder we put the stigma of "losers" live with the idea that the fate of us not to be loved.The longer loneliness, the terrible - nothing has changed, and suddenly it all my life.
Solitude - an insidious lord.It is slowly but surely penetrates us, penetrates into every cell and subjugates why we succumb to depression.
In fact alone there is nothing really to worry about.On the contrary, you can find pluses.If your loved one is not now, then later, he is sure to appear - the sympathy and love inherent in all people.But being in an open relationship, you can fully engage in their studies, career, travel, is the end.You can also search for yourself some hobbies.That may change something in your life.But in any case, do not sit on the ground, use the time to good use, develop - it's a girl to be impossible not to draw attention.
enough to be afraid to do something that goes against the opinion of the majority (if, of course, does not violate the law).If you feel that it makes you happy, do not even hesitate - do it.In any situation, always has its pluses and minuses.So rely only on the positive aspects, but do not forget about the negative aspects.
Articles Source: resnichka.ru
