prodlozhaem Today we introduce you to some techniques that many parents try to apply for child-rearing.
However, psychologists believe that in fact these ways to "teach wits" erroneous and harmful to the child's relationship with parents and the educational process as a whole.
Verbal bullying - the death of understanding
sarcastic remarks, attempts to "sharpen your wits" on the child and discredit him, sarcasm and open verbal abuse - this sin many parents.Just one adult for such a treatment of children should be put out of yourself and others - it is a sad everyday practice of "communication."
Psychologists believe - where parents are so and so treat the younger generations, there can be no understanding and dialogue.
instinctively trying to protect themselves from the attacks of moms and dads, the children themselves in response to any attack by closing a resentment, and sometimes begin to think about revenge.In any case, no child wants to love and understand a parent, a child terrorizes his own chicanery, remarks and insults.
How to be a lie and teach integrity?
Often children are not telling the truth in the eyes of their parents, even if it is obvious that this is - a lie.For example, the kid says he does not touch the jam, though he smeared them all, or older child says that running errands, although it is clear that nothing has been done.
In most cases, the children lie when afraid to tell the truth when they know that the truth they scolded or punished, and he heard a lie - praise or reward.
Therefore we can not allow the child began to be afraid to speak the truth to parents.
Adults must be willing to hear the bitter and inconvenient for them the truth about the feelings, thoughts and actions of children.And listen carefully and quietly discuss with the child, as anger and anger will only give the baby to understand that nothing can not be recognized.
course, mom and dad are best openly and honestly express their feelings to the child.If you are upset by his behavior or words, we must say so, but at the same time to try to learn and understand why he did it, thinking or feeling.This will help to resolve misunderstandings between generations, to correct an error or change a child's behavior.
listening carefully to the child, adults can tell by his lies, what he feels, what fears and what she wants.The same thing can tell us children's imaginations.So do not rush to catch a liar, and scold the young dreamer - better understand what he really wants.
And not to provoke a lie of self-defense, not only restrain their negative reaction to the truth, but do not arrange child interrogation, do not ask provocative questions.
For example, if a baby is something broke, broken or lost, instead of "inquiry with prejudice", accusations and scandal can sit down and express its regret that it happened, or even say that you is upset, and do not forget to tellthat you understand the feelings of the child about this.You can then ask the child to continue to be cautious and careful.
It is important that during the conversation the child felt that he understood not reject because of what happened, that he can openly tell their parents about their problems and troubles.And, of course, then it is more likely to want to take care of the things and responsibly carry out assignments mom and dad.
to teach your child to be honest, it is necessary to directly and openly to call a spade a spade.Not to question why he did not promise, but calmly and firmly say, "I see that you have not done - do it, please, it's time."
If the child - problems at school, and he hides, it is not necessary to catch the baby in a lie, and it is better to show that you know the problems very worried for him, and would like to help him.
According to psychologists, those who want to cultivate an honest man, instead of tantrums, interrogation and notations should learn quietly and constructive manner razibratsya happening.Then the child will understand that lying is not necessary, and stop being afraid of the truth.
