Remember fiction film with Arnold Schwarzenegger called the "Total Recall"?Imagine for a moment the reverse situation - you have to forget all the bad things that happened in life.How would your life change?Of course, it would be many times better.You would not expect a dirty trick on people who would not be afraid of disappointment, not suffered anxiety about future wrongs and misfortunes.
Is it possible?Author of the book "Radical Forgiveness," asserts that it's real, it would wish.In the end, all that is needed - is to read the work, who wrote Colin Tipping."The radical forgiveness" offers pass thirteen steps, and then you become a different person.This technique is not a religious, psychological or esoteric setting.Step by step, examining the causes of your offense while dealing with offenders mentally, you will be able to give up unnecessary emotions and you become free.
victim archetype
What do you think, can the events that happened in the past, layering some imprint on the present?For example, a man broke his leg.The bones are fused, but remained limp, which sometimes manifests itself.However, despite the fact that the physical body is probably our spiritual experiences can have a far greater impact on life than the physical.
According to the author's thoughts Colin Tripping, each of us carries the traces of resentment of all the events of life.Any person has the archetype of the victim.No matter how strong it may seem to others and to himself, drawn from childhood memories of the injustices of others.
resentment toward parents, educators, teachers, peers, friends accumulates like a heavy load.How this here specific load can be at twenty man?At forty years?Therefore, radical forgiveness is the only option to become free from this burden and allow yourself to look at life with fresh eyes.
Who needs forgiveness?
Many people believe that you need to forgive, because it is necessary for our offenders.But another said Tipping."The radical forgiveness" will help in the first place for you.The one who hurt you, perhaps a hundred times already forgot about it and moved to another city or even country.
Resentment does not exist anywhere except in your memory.It turns out, if you will not be able to truly forgive someone, resentment will live with you and take away your power, which could be very useful.
negative for the person who gives offense
Let's take a look at your life.If you are absolutely happy person who is satisfied with everything and constantly smiling, this article, like the book "Radical Forgiveness," is not for you.
But such a person is found today in the best case, one in a thousand.The rest of what we have?Uncomprehending parents, loud pesky neighbors that reproached colleagues, chief petty tyrant, stupid teachers.All these people, no, no, yes and throw up our emotional experiences.You can blame it in their own troubles, but it is easier to dig in yourself, to find the strength to forgive the offender and start a new life is not burdened by anything.So, what of the 13 steps needed to commit to clear the unnecessary weight?
Step 1 and 2 - describe and represent
In this step, you need to talk out loud about the situation that makes you strong negative emotions.Describe not only acts committed by you and your abuser, but also the emotions that you are experiencing in this regard.
Imagine the offense in the form of pain that builds up somewhere on your body.Close your eyes and try to feel, where it hurts.Put your hand there.
Step 3 and 4 - and shout aware
third step - do not limit yourself.Cry, cry if I want to - use profanity.Technology radical forgiveness implies complete freedom to show their emotions.
fourth step - this awareness.Do you really think that all the situations that occur in life is random?Technique of radical forgiveness from Colin Tipping offers you realize that even such unpleasant things as abuse and insults from other people, you are not a coincidence.Understand and accept the fact that it is a reason for your spiritual and physical development.
5 and 6 steps - understand and accept
Answer to the fifth step to the next question: "Do you feel that resentment prevents you live?"This is one of the essential parts of a program such as radical forgiveness.German Semeniuk in his technique also offers to answer this question.This awareness will help you quickly wish to get rid of unwanted emotions.
next step - refuse judgments.Forget about the fact that everything is bad and good.It happened - well, it happened, it is now thing of the past.
step 7 and 8 - stop judging yourself
Very often, thinking of their abusers, people immediately said to myself: "Well, it serves me right, I did and he is not a saint.I deserve it! "As long as you do not forgive yourself, you do not forgive others.Remember, you are what is.
If you want to cultivate, please, but accept yourself, love and forgive.Stop judging yourself and evaluate.Performing on stage all the 13 steps to the radical forgiveness, pay special attention to the seventh step.Forgive all their own sins.That's half the battle.
eighth step is closely connected with the seventh - like myself when I'm sorry.You are the greatest treasure in this world, and you are worthy of love in the first place by himself.
9 and 10 step - your offenders are your teachers
Now you can think on a larger scale.Resentment and offender come into your life, not only in order to bring you the bad emotions.It was a lesson for you to become wiser, and the person who offended you - your teacher.You can, as a child, continue to sulk, and can "grow" and to see the entire situation from the outside.
give an example.You constantly get criticisms from the boss.Like all good in the workplace, and the pay is good, and relationships with colleagues, but the chief just unbearable.You are not to blame, you know that you are just the perfect worker.How to be, how to forgive the boss?Just let go of the situation.Think, instead of whether it is a sign that it's time you change jobs, find new understanding boss?
Or here's another example.You're too busy working chores, spending all his life in the office and communicating with colleagues.And then you find out that your beloved spouse you changed.What to do, how to forgive?Is not that why this happened, you do not pay attention to her?Because first you have changed it with his work?
Tenth step - is to accept the fact that your abusers - decent people who simply play a role to improve your life.That's what Colin Tipping offers."The radical forgiveness" - this is a program that works only when you not only can forgive the bad people, but also to recognize that they are no worse than you.Yes, they have played a negative role in your life.But not because if they did you become better, stronger today?Where would you be and what would happen to you, you will not survive once the critical moment?
Eleventh and twelfth step - you get better
The eleventh step is to recognize the fact that in any situation, even the most unfavorable, is the Divine or Higher manifestation of wisdom and love.Whatever happens - so it is necessary, first and foremost for you.Without this situation, you can not see the light, smarter, to become better, braver, stronger.
Answer the question - do you feel that the offense departs, you feel better, it is easier?This is the twelfth step program of "radical forgiveness."Reviews of people that have been a workshop on Tipping point out that the answer comes easily.And the answer - "yes."When you look at the situation through the eyes of others, giving up their own judgments, everything looks different.And unjust, and your feelings in this regard.You can understand that the situation was not random, and it is even legitimate, based on the fact that you have had or behaved.
final thirteenth step
last step takes place itself.You just know that something inside you has changed for the better, as if the energy flow changed its direction.On the thirteenth stage of the old story goes even in the past, it moves into oblivion.The forces that you spend on chewing problems, her comprehension are released.And already the new you can spend your free time creation, creation, dreams.
Summarizing
Since childhood, most of us are accumulated resentments.If you think of our memory as a bottomless closet, we almost every day add up to the old, moth-eaten things, broken toys, we do not need the details and debris.
Somewhere in the cabinet are books, jewelry, new clothes, but among all this "stuff" is what you need, and do not look.The technique of "radical forgiveness" offers effectively clear debris and free up space for himself and his happy life.Do not ask questions about who needs it, since it is necessary for you.
your offenders - not evil people, or even force.No, it is the same individuals, just like you, just for them a special role - to teach you something.Of course, the study may be using the "carrot", but if you have children or pets, you know that "the whip" is sometimes inevitable.So do not judge your evil attackers do not wish them grief - they were required to you not less than your friends.Take a lesson, and the offenders, resentment and all the destructive emotions you just let go.It is very simple to do, having 13 steps of radical forgiveness program for Colin Tipping.
