We all had a situation in my life, when old friends leave gradually or, conversely, by scandals and quarrels.When former environment becomes annoying, uncomfortable.When the deal with these people do not want to, or when people are not willing to see us.
But it is different - when there are new people coming quite a strange way into our lives and stay there for a long time.Familiar?
This article has a practical nature, and exercise it may be useful for understanding the changes taking place.
Recently, a close person told me, "Julia, thanks to you I know when I am changing and when I need to change something in my life."And when I asked the meaning, the answer was: "When we meet, I immediately feel comfortable with it or not.If comfortable - it means that we are moving in the same direction and are developing with similar speed.And if all of a sudden I feel something I have in you annoying me for some reason do not want to go out with you, your word annoying me - I start to listen to yourself and understand that in some area of life I "progal"I need to work on it."
What does it mean?
Think: is there in your life close to the people with whom relations have recently changed - tighten your or from the opposite side.The first and most important thing to know - things are changing!Something in life is changing - or your loved one, or you.It equally affects the relationship.
How to deal with it?
Take a sheet of paper, a pencil, a glass of water or tea and sit back.So the answer yourself a few questions: in what areas, themes, issues you are with that person costs arising doubt or resistance?What about the man you are annoying, embarrassing or annoying?As this time is now responsive in your life?What's going on in your life on this subject?Move on.
example: annoyed me as my pregnant girlfriend talked to her husband.He treated her very roughly, in my opinion, even insulted her.When I saw it, I was shocked and then we have this friend not seen for about a year.When I began to understand the causes of this shock, I realized that I personally can not stand that attitude to her by a man of principle.Understanding this was very important for me at that time.
Next, think: what has changed in your life or me at the moment?Work, career, income, outlook on life, relationships - anything.Or is there something that has long wanted to change?
answers to these questions, you will understand that in any area there is great potential and active promotion, as long as you just do not notice because of some reason.Consequently, it will be necessary either to move to realize the potential, or pay attention to the processes taking place within you.
general world - a reflection of ourselves.And we are a reflection of our world.We change - changing our environment.If people catch up to our level for a while - they will remain.If they are due to various reasons prefer to remain at that level, which are - our paths will likely diverge.It must be clearly understood.
downside law
This law has the opposite effect: if we very much want any changes, progress in their lives, it is necessary to change the social circle to one where these qualities or resources will be present.
That is, for example, if I want to increase my income, I will communicate mostly with people whose income levels similar to the one that I want.
Create your surroundings, learn from it!Learn to listen and hear him - usually signals the environment give us a lot of information about ourselves.At a minimum, it will be an occasion to reflect.
And most importantly - listen to yourself and be in contact with them.The most important thing - is that you can catch and discover himself.The world around us helps you see changes in themselves and change.This is your life and your strength!
Good luck to you and the best environment for your development!
Yulia Portland
Articles Source: shkolazhizni.ru
