death anniversary - the date of the funeral, during which family and friends gather for a memorial meal.This is an opportunity to remember the good things and touching moments of the life of the deceased, to share their feelings, to express condolences.
In the narrow circle marks the anniversary of the death.How to remember, whom to invite, what to make the menu - organizational issues concerned with the family of the deceased.Works of mercy, prayers, visits to the cemetery to honor the memory of the deceased should be.
History of days of remembrance
Funeral (or remembrance, remembrance) - a ritual in memory of a deceased person.Usually wake spend relatives, if not available - loved ones, friends.
tradition of remembrance arose in connection with the Christian doctrine.Every religion has its own rites of remembrance of the people.Adapted popular consciousness often combines several beliefs in a ritual.
Christian traditions are fundamental in Russia.Nevertheless, the Orthodox rules (with the funeral commemorations, prayers) commemorated only people receiving baptism.Exceptions are suicides, unbaptized, unorthodox, heretical - for them the Church does not pray.
Dates remembrance
Orthodoxy funeral after his death carried out 3 times.On the third day after his death, on the ninth, fortieth.The essence of the ritual is a memorial meal.Relatives, friends gather around the table.They remember the deceased, his good works, the history of life.Dishes with memorial table handing out to friends, acquaintances, colleagues of the deceased, that they remembered him.
On the day of the funeral gather everyone to honor the memory of the deceased.Christian first being taken to the funeral rite of the church or chapel of the cemetery.Unbaptized dead, after parting with the house, immediately driven to the cemetery.The burial takes place in the tradition of the region in which a person lives.Then everyone returned to the house for the wake.
On the 9th day after the death of the deceased to honor the memory name only close relatives.Funeral resemble a family dinner, with the difference that the photo of the deceased is not far from the refectory table.Next to the image of the deceased put a glass of water or vodka, a loaf of bread.This pagan tradition, unacceptable for Christians.
On day 40 invite everyone.On this day, usually come to the wake those who could not attend the funeral.
Then comes the anniversary of the death.How to remember, who to invite - to solve the relatives of the deceased.Usually name on the death anniversary of his closest friends and relatives.
Christian traditions commemoration
In remembrance of the Christian faith on day 3 after the death takes place in honor of the resurrection of Christ (on day 3 after the execution).On Day 9 - in honor of the angelic hosts, who ask the Lord for pardon deceased.On day 40 - in honor of the Ascension of the Lord.
Church tradition says that since the death of the soul is wandering.Up to 40 days, she is preparing to meet God.The first 3 days after death, the soul visits places of earthly life of loved ones.She then flies heavenly abode from 3 to 9 days.Then he sees the torment of sinners in hell, from 9 to 40 days.
decision God takes place at 40 days.It turns out that the directive, which will be to the soul of the Last Judgment.
beginning of a new, eternal life - is the anniversary of the death.How to remember deceased, whom to invite, what to order - are important organizational issues.By the day of remembrance is necessary to prepare in advance.
Death Anniversary: how to remember
About funeral date disclosed only to those who wish to see the family of the deceased to Godin.It should be very close and native people, friends of the deceased.It is necessary to clarify who can come.Knowing the number of visitors will help to create the menu.Contingency arrival of someone from the familiar - a la carte dishes to make 1-2 more.
the anniversary of the death should come to the cemetery to visit the grave of the deceased.Then all the relatives, relatives are invited to the memorial dinner.It should be noted that the days of commemoration of the reins at the discretion of the family of the deceased.Subsequent discussions strangers about the correctness of the ritual - are inappropriate.
approaching anniversary of the death.How to remember how to set the table?It is important to note that such events conveniently carried out in small cafes.This will save the owners from exhausting preparation of various dishes and then tidy apartment.
Christians bought a special memorial service in the church.It should discuss in advance with the priest all the activities that need to carry out.You can restrict home reading hymns, funeral prayers, invite the priest to the house.
Whom to invite?
in close family circle passes remembrance, anniversary of the death.How to remember who to call relatives is discussed in advance.On the hour it decided to invite only those who want to see.
Unwanted visitors can suddenly descend on the anniversary of his death.The family of the deceased to make a decision - to leave the unwanted guest to a memorial dinner or not to invite to the table.The anniversary of the death - an event just for the closest people.
not necessary to arrange a crowded concourse.Funeral date, the memory of the deceased is not a reason for a noisy party.A modest family dinner, fond memories of the dead - so goes the anniversary of the death.How to remember - decide the next of kin of the deceased.Slow, calm, soft music, photos of the deceased - a worthy way to honor the memory.
How to dress?
Clothing on the anniversary of the death of no small importance.If, before a memorial dinner planned a trip to the cemetery - to consider the weather conditions.To visit the church, women need to prepare a headdress (a scarf).
on all funeral activities should be strictly dress.Indecent will look shorts, deep neckline, bows and ruffles.Bright, motley colors are best avoided.Business, office suites, closed shoes, strict dress muted tones - a pertinent choice for the date of the funeral.
How to commemorate the anniversary of the death? good memories in a close circle.You can give alms - cakes, sweets, things are dead.
visit a cemetery on the hour
sure to visit the cemetery.If weather conditions do not permit (heavy rain, snow storm), it can be done the other day.At the cemetery, should come in the first half of the day.
for the graves of the deceased must be monitored.Timely paint the fence, you can put a small table and a bench.Plant flowers, weed out unwanted weeds that give grave groomed appearance.It is the anniversary of the death of a man ... How to remember?Tidy up on his grave, to light candles in special glasses, lay fresh flowers.
According to Christian tradition the Synod in the XIX century forbade wreaths with inscriptions from sham colors.Such laying distract from prayers for the soul of the deceased.
can bring with them to the grave of tea, alcohol, cakes, candies.Modestly to remember the deceased, poured on the grave of the remains of alcohol, pour the crumbs - a symbol of the presence of the deceased next to the living.This pagan tradition at the funeral held by many families.
In Christianity, prohibits anything to bring to the grave.Only fresh flowers and prayers should remember the deceased.
How to lay the table
Table setting for memorial services standard.The only difference is - to put on the table an even number of dishes.Forks on the date of mourning, usually excluded.Such a moment in the hour is at the discretion of the family of the deceased.
dishes, in addition to the obligatory memorial table, prepared in accordance with the preferences of the deceased.For the interior, you can add mourning ribbons, light the candles.
For Orthodox - kutyu consecrate the church.Eliminate alcohol, stick-fasting and fast days - from them in the preparation of a start menu.Much attention is paid not receive food, and prayers for the dead.
menu on the anniversary of the death of
As usual commemoration marks the anniversary of the death.How to remember what to cook?Necessarily considered in the memorial table jelly, kutia pancakes.A symbol of Christianity are the fish dishes - be it cakes, cold cuts, smoked.
salad can be prepared salad, beets, garlic, vegetable caviar.Post sauerkraut, pickled cucumbers and mushrooms.Sandwiches with sprats baked cheese.Sliced meat and cheese.
suitable for hot dishes fried or baked chicken (rabbit, goose, duck, turkey).Cutlets or steaks, the meat in French or chop stuffed with vegetables or lamb stew.For garnish - boiled potatoes, vegetable stew, fried eggplant.
in the form of dessert - cakes, sweet pies, cakes, cheesecakes, chocolates, fruit and apples.Drinks - purchased juice or cooked at home stewed fruit, jelly, lemonade.
Delete from the menu, sparkling and sweet wines, as indicated not a happy holiday, and anniversary of the death.How to remember? Give preference to strong drinks (vodka, cognac, whiskey), dry red wines.During table talk taken to remember the deceased, his good deeds on earth.
Funeral
cafes in order to exclude a mass purchase of products, cooking, table and subsequent tidy - you can order a small room at the cafe.To took place in a calm atmosphere death anniversary.How to remember what order - help employees cafe.Their menu is not very different from home.
should notify employees in advance cafes that guests will gather for the funeral.The administrator will try to keep the visitors too cheerful as possible from the relatives of the deceased (if we are talking about the common room).
usually accepted in the hour of ordering a small ballroom.Then the festive mood neighbors do not interfere with the quiet mood of the anniversary of the death.
If not appeal café, and you want a cozy, home environment - you can order a meal at home.An advance menu, set the time and the delivery address.
Death Anniversary: how to remember the church
According to Christian beliefs live debt - to pray for the dead.Then the most serious sins can be forgiven.Religious memorial services are called to ask for the forgiveness of sins of the dead.Not only in the days of commemoration, but also on ordinary days can be ordered Requiem.
during the Divine Liturgy sounded pray for the dead.Immediately before the Liturgy (or in advance, in the evening) served a note in which are inscribed the names of deceased Christians.During the liturgy, all the names sounded.
can book Prayers for the dead.This commemoration of the 40 days before the Liturgy.Prayers bought for a longer period of time - Commemoration for six months or a year.
Plain candle for the souls - it is also the memory of the deceased.At home, you can remember the prayers of the deceased.There is a special book of the Christian - pomyannik where to write the names of the dead.
During a visit to the cemetery Christians read Akathist to commit lithium (also commit to a memorial dinner, which invited the priest).
almsgiving
The memorial days should be given for charity.Funeral dishes can bestow in need, friends, colleagues.This is done in order to allow more people to remember the deceased with a kind word.
good occasion for charity - the anniversary of the death.How to remember the dead?You can give money, candy, cookies beggar at the church and asked them to pray for the deceased, to donate money to build the temple.Needy friends usually give things late.
Charity - is a good thing in relation to the poor.Therefore, the family of the deceased necessarily distribute food to the poor at the church.You can in their surroundings to find people (pensioners, large families), which will be important for real help.Or carry a small tribute to a nursing home, boarding home baby.
procedure for conducting the anniversary of the death of
- notify in advance of the approach of the funeral date, invite friends and relatives of the deceased.
- Select cafe or organize an event at home.
- Visit the cemetery, the grave of the deceased.
- memorial dinner to honor the memory of the deceased.
- giving alms to the needy.
