"Empathy - the ability to put yourself in another person or animal, the capacity for empathy. Empathy also includes the ability to accurately determine the emotional state of another person on the basis of facial reactions, actions, gestures, and so on. D .. Also under the empathy involves the ability to very accuratelyfeel and sense the emotional state of a person without seeing him. "Here is how Wikipedia defines it.Accordingly, empathy - a man able to feel your emotions up to the slightest shade.It would seem - a gift !?
So why do I call it - a deviation?Probably because he did not have the heart to call - a curse.
On the one hand, having the opportunity to feel the other, that is, even at some point, "predict" them (after all, this is not so difficult if you become familiar with the emotional and psychological constitution of man), you can feel almostgod.Then, you begin to understand that it is not able to protect themselves from the pain of loved ones, and from the experiences of their neighbors.A little later, people will realize that talking with you, they ispytvat strange sense of calm in power and will go to the string you just to talk about their pains and troubles.Then, in any public place, you begin to feel the chaos of human emotion.Any.And then, you will inevitably have to learn to defend themselves.Yes, you will still be able to show people just what they want to receive from you, but it is limited.Not too pleasant picture, is not it?
But digress for a moment from intimidation dream of supernatural gift, and talk about how others perceive empaths?I have to say, probably - negatively.In most cases, empathy is called "experienced" people are quite closed.They are difficult to contact and often simply rip chat throw you literally in the middle of a conversation.Sunglasses, face a "professional" poker player, deliberately slow gestures.If you're trying to tell an adult and experienced empathy what he heard or wants to know, is likely to run the risk of running into rudeness.Or, on the promise of polite words, you simply will clearly understand that this issue - especially yours.And it is a deep lilac interlocutor.Because he, the interlocutor, their problems - above the roof.At one of the forums, with a bias in the so-called "practical magic" one good man strongly suggested that "empaths - a self Apatow (people suffering from apathy) and hidden suitsidalschikov."That, unfortunately, is not not true.Since, among the experienced and "open" have empathy, really high percentage of depression and suicide attempts.
Here they are, in the words of writer A. Belyanin - "most unpleasant villains."
Yes, the person did not loom very nice.But look at the other side of the coin.The man - a social creature.And one is very, very rare.Therefore, virtually constant pressure of foreign experiences (and in fact not always pleasant!), The pain of others, a strange joy over the years accumulate in the head.At some point, one understands that simply no longer able to sweep him out the unnecessary information.For a more striking example, imagine that the neighbor behind the wall wildly toothache to the doctor, he does not go, because - scary.And you, all the while feeling his pain, but even sympathy can not help.Because the neighbor - your house plumber, eternally tipsy uncle John, and listen to you, he will not, at least you smash cake.
There is also a third party.Empathy with adequate preparation and appropriate training can easily manipulate people.After intentionally providing a person exactly the emotion that he is waiting for.And saying the exact words, which he currently wants to hear, an empath can easily achieve almost complete subordination of the individual.And guard against this, I must say, is almost impossible.For, unfortunately, we are all in varying degrees, the slaves of their own dreams and desires.
In the end, I want to say that in spite of such a "great danger", empathy harmless enough in everyday life.And, in spite of the negative attitude of others, people for the most part, are dangerous for them much more than they are for men.
And more.If you suddenly see that your friend or relative of the child does not want to deal with what that person is trying to avoid the presence of people in general, over the weekend trying to dissociate itself from the world ... Do not rush to accuse him of unsociability.Talk to him.Maybe you are near accident empath?That no longer feel vmogotu everything emotions?Help him.Listen.Support.And believe me, a reliable friend you will not!
Protect yourself and loved ones.Be happy!
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