child began to bring home someone else's toys and stuff, and you are afraid that he took them without asking?You caught the child while trying to pull money out of your wallet?
So, it's time to think about and understand what is going on with your baby ...
Psychologists say: the causes of child theft - not in how rich or poor the family of the child.They are much deeper, and combat theft of children must be properly and carefully, so as not to harm the child.
According to experts, up to 7-8 years of stealing from children can have several causes:
1. The child has not yet formed the concept of property, as it still does not distinguish between what is bad and what is good.You can explain this by using all kinds of games, stories, plays, on the example of the characters and their actions.
2. The child - some psychological problem he is experiencing.Try to watch him, to remember at what point the baby started to take someone else's.Talk to him, try to find out why he was doing.
3. The child can not cope with a strong desire to have a favorite thing, he has not developed the strength of will, or he was too spoiled.
Tips for parents :
1. Try not to miss the moment when they begin such phenomena do not attack the child, do not push him, talk to him, explain why take someone else - bad.Do not scold or punish him at once, do not cry and do not hit in any case - it will only lead to the opposite effect.
2. Find out maybe someone else took the kid toy with the permission of its owner or exchanged for another.
3. If you brought a toy does not belong to another child, and preschool or playroom return it, but think - maybe your baby has long dreamed about it, and should give him a toy, with a convenient excuse?
4. If, however, it became clear that the child took a toy from one of the children, and without demand, notice how the baby belongs to the offense.He hid a toy someone else or not, whether you spoke about it or refused to say whether he feels a sense of shame and remorse?
If the child has himself understands that went bad, tell him that upset his action, but we are confident that he is an adult and knows what is good and what is bad, and more so do not be.
If a baby is not a sense of guilt, then, in addition to the above, you should give it a clear message that you do not like his behavior, and you'll be surprised at what it could do so.
In any case, arrange a meeting of the two children, where a return of toys, and no reproach, do not humiliate or punish your child in the presence of the master toy or his parents.
5. If a child took money from you without asking - first, find out what they needed him.
money for gifts to friends take the children to strengthen their social status as they understand it.For example, fairy tales and stories try to explain to the kid that real friends are not acquired with money and gifts.
Help your child to make sure your right and to strengthen its position among friends in other ways.For example, play with him and his friends, showing how you feel with his opinion and respect your child.It will raise its credibility.
If you could not figure out what the child wanted to take the money, try to acquaint him with the financial situation in the family and the laws by which it exists.
disappointed that money was gone, tell me what they were for and how everyone in the family is forced to indulge in some things, in order to achieve more important goals that need money not only personal, but also for the general needs.It would be good that the child also know how difficult it gets the money.
6. The main rule and advice to parents - listen to your child, try to speak with him quietly, without judging and without offending, without penalties, threats and labels.And then do not bring up the kid his past mistakes.
